help me with my army husband?

he needs to hire a lawyer immediately...and get his visitation rights straighten up...he may have to pay to have his son(how old is he) fly out to where ever y'all are stationed at..or if he goes to where his son is at take a copy of the court order with him and demand his visitation...but the biggest thing is get a lawyer...

good luck

Your husband needs to take care of all this mess HIMSELF. Yes, I know you are concerned but honestly, you can do nothing about it. Only he can do something about it.

While deployed members are paid the same way they always are....by direct deposit. They do not take take all their money and put in some overseas account. The member directs where the money goes. If he didn't pay his payments, then he damn well should've gotten his pay docked regardless of whether he was deployed or not.

The military is not a crutch. It is not an excuse to play "poor me, I'm off at war, feels sorry for me" You still have obligations, and you need to take care of them. If you have a child, you support it. If he doesn't have custody, that's HIS problem and if he wants joint custody or visitation, he needs to go through the court system. You need to cool your jets.

He needs to get a private lawyer to get a court order for visitation. That won't cost much.

Then he was derelict in not alloting the child support money. I don't know if this is what he told you but it is wrong. And they are briefed very well on what responsibilities need to be taken care of before deployment. So he has no excuse on that one. Serving your country is a great thing but it doesn't relieve you of obligations. However, support and visitation are different issues. So he should pursue this through the courts.

Aw that sucks. :( All I can say is I don't trust military people much since I know how some of them are.. In the Navy.. Since I've been on deployment. But uh my sister is happily married to a person in the Army with a three year old and my cousin is married to a Marine that cheated on her and my other sister is with a person in the Navy but it's complicated. It aways is. I don't know what to say I just hope for the best and you know if he does cheat on you he can get in trouble with his chain of command. So yay? I suggest talking to him about it but I'm sure he'd say something like babe it's nothing you're freaking out blah, blah, blah. I would say you're stressing me out with this and it's not good for the baby. (it really isn't)

The courts have mandated the support, so you must keep on paying that. If the visitation is not expressly prohibited, then he has a fundamental RIGHT to visitation. A good lawyer would have set up a visitation schedule, but even if one has NOT been set up, the courts can force them to give him visitation rights. Contact your lawyer.

I think you have valid concerns. If the court has ordered child support then they have also ordered visitation. If he truly wants to see his sone then he needs to go through the courts and file a petition to see him. Let the court know that he is not getting his visitation and that he would like to see his son while he is home. If the ex doesn't want him to see the boy then they need to sever the child support and everyone move. Since it doesn't sound like that's what you and him want, fight for his right to see him!

If your husband wants to do anything about it I suggest he hire a family lawyer, get all his documents in order, and take her to court. If it is that important to him he can take some leave and try to get this straightened out.

Did they already go through courts to determine where the child would live etc.

It is wonderful that you care so much about a child you have never met. I am going to be honest with you from my view point. I do not know this child's mother so I can not guess what her reasons are for being this way. You have never spoke to her so you don't know if she has a good reason or if she is just a hateful person. Either way, he chose this women to have a child with so he has some responsibilty for picking a person like this......as far as your husband protecting anyone, you sound like you are in a cult. I am safe & don't need anyone to kill anyone else's child cause they live overseas or look different than I do. War is killing there is nothing to be proud of about it. I know you are probably angry rather than intelligently opening up to what I am saying. I don't want to judge you b/c I believe everyone does what they need to do in life. But you have no right to push your beliefs on them or anyone else & people who believe you do are usuallly not open to understanding how appalling it is to others. People who chose the military chose to be drama queens. You are upset cause things are so overwhelming, unfair, drama, drama, drama. He could have stayed with his son but he left. So all these problems you are having cause you are acting like a victim instead of looking at what got him where he is at. He picked this women, he had this child, he left, he picked a career in the military, he believes he is doing something to protect people when they are safe so it is his feeling he is entitled that is frustrating you both. So I suggest you look at your beliefs & when you do things will start to get better. I would not want my child around anyone who has such a lack of faith that God doesn't protect us & he have to hurt others to get what we want.

ok half of that i didnt read no offense.... is there a visitation order in place? if so - then he can inforce it. if not then there is nothing he can do until he has one in place.... if there is no visitation granted by the judge but yet he has been ordered to pay child support i think thats wrong...