Can someone help me please!!?

Take time at home to look at pictures, and memories of him. Allow yourself fo grieve, cry, and scream into a pillow if you feel like it. Do this all evening until you get it out. Then when you go in public, you won't be quite so apt to cry.

hey girl...unfortunately you need to want to get over it. and you need to want to think about it. death is a natural part of life. You will never forget about your brother but you need to let yourself grieve. You may break down and that is ok. turn to those you love for support and offer them support so they know you understand. I heard something that really helped me once. a lady called in to a radio talk show I was listening to. she began going off cause she had lost her son who was 18. He was her only child perfect in every way...on his way to an ivy league school when drunk driver hit him head on and he died. she was telling the radio host how it was a bunch of bs that she would have to loose him and she was mad at God for taking him from her. the radio show host said something really cool that helped me...he said...let's suppose that before this life you and your son knew each other. maybe in the last life...he was your father or your brother...and you decided to enter into this life with you playing the mother and him playing the son...but the dudes in charge in heaven told you both that they would work that out but unfortunately the son could only stay until he was 18 and then they needed him for another spiritual task and he would have to die young to tend to it. then he asked her...if that were true and she could go back and decide if she wanted to forfeit the whole agreement in order to avoid the pain of the early loss would she go back and never have him in the first place...knowing the doom that lay before her. and of course she said that she would still have wanted to enjoy the short time she could have with him.

sometimes death is cruel. I lost my dad at 15 and my family got split up. I was the eldest of 5 siblings and only saw my brother and sisters twice in 18 years. I was on my own and alone at 15. but right before that I had a dad who took care of everything...oh and my mom had a nervouse breakdown when my dad died and was not around. I am so sorry this happened to you and your family....what were the circumstances in your brother death and what was he like?

You have to think about it. You have to grieve over his death. If you don't it is not healthy for you. It is going to be hard. I lost my dad 5 months ago. I cry almost three times a week. I miss him so much. Just like you miss your bother. I want to put it all behind me and not think about it. But then I got really depressed. You don't want to go thru that. Deal with it now. Not later.

Oh, my heart aches for you and your family!

Seek a grief councilor either in the phone book

or on the net. They will be able to best help you.

My most sincere condolences!