Confidence issue......................?

First, I don't mean to sound harsh. I commend you for wanting to get back into horses, for realizing when you're in over your head, for asking for help and for your honest assessment of your ability. Good job--you're way ahead of a lot of people by doing this. Here are my thoughts:

My best advice would be to reconsider that weanling! While it is possible, theoretically, for an inexperienced to intermediate horse person/rider to start bring along and train a young horse, this is really doing it the hard way. Your odds of success are not that great at least without a lot of tough trial and error; you need to be able to know what the colt(or filly) should be learning and when; how to teach those things in a systematic approach, what to do when the horse does not react as desired or anticipated, and to have the nerve and calmness to steady the colt when riding for the first several years. Do you know how to tell when your colt is ready to start riding? How to prevent or block unwanted behaviors? What to do if he bucks? What will you do if you take him for a ride and he spooks and runs? Will this scare you? Do you know how to handle it? What bit will you use on your colt? If these questions worry you, or you aren't sure, you probably are not ready to bring along a young horse.

I would suggest you look around and purchase a solidly trained horse between the ages of 8-15 years as your new horse. You could begin riding as soon as you were ready and relearn the ropes while building your confidence. Then later you could always get a younger horse if you wanted to. So many people think that younger horses are better, but in reality, older horses that someone has invested time, training and effort into are often the better deal. The horse market is really low right now so please don't let cost be the reason you overlook a jewel.

Having said all that, its good that you've been leasing a horse before getting your own again. Please be aware that the types of behavior your lease horse is doing, are the sort of things you could reasonably expect a colt or young horse to do for several years--that and more.

I agree that you may want to look into some Parelli and that can help you enormously. Please stay safe, it does sound like your lease horse is a lot of horse and too much horse for you--but if you are going to keep the weanling you mentioned then I would encourage you to continue your lease and work with this horse to educate yourself before trying to train a colt.

Please do some research on how to read horse's body language. Try working with the lease horse in a small corral or round pen, with or without a (longe)line. You need to learn how to block him when he comes toward you if that's not what you asked him to do. But you also need to be able to read why he is coming at you--what his intention is. And to know how to stay safe when he does this. If you can do this and get him to walk, trot, canter and be respectful on the ground then you may be ready for a younger horse. Parelli can teach you these skills. Try his 7 Games. (You can google it for more information).

I'm sorry this may not be what you hoped to hear and wish you best of luck with your lease horse and your colt. Please stay safe and don't feel bad about being scared or admitting it, we're all scared sometimes and you can regain your confidence. Just take it slowly.

He sounds like a very dominate horse, which can be a very dangerous horse. I would stop leasing him, and let his owners know what happened, and let them deal with it. The good thing is that you were only leasing him, so you can give him back at any time. I have an off the track TB, and he's has some dominance issues every now and then, but he's usually pretty good.

And when you get your QH, consider doing Parelli Natural Horsemanship with him. I bought my QH colt when he was three months old, and did Parelli with him from day one. (Day one was halter breaking him btw) Parelli turned him into a wonderful horse and has made me a very confident horse person. I saddle broke my colt enough to where my 8yr old niece rides him in four months. Parelli really works, but you have to stick with the program, and it does take time. But the time, effort, and patience and so worth it!! Good luck, and have fun with your colt. Sorry the TB didn't work out.

And I agree with everyone else, that you have the wrong horse:

This work for me:

I pretended I did not know anything after not riding for a few years and found a good training facility.

During the time I took group lesson. I rode several horses and was able to purchase one of them.

Get rid of the leased horse, since he is dangerous. If you are just getting back into horses, find a nice, broke horse to lease that can ease you back into riding.

he is a very grumpy horse and has issues with humans if he charges u down he could be thinking that u have came to hhurt him or he thinks its a big game

u should try and work out why he is liek this and work with him but if he is out of ur lauge return him and say u have issue be honest and look for anther lease but u could always get a friend otu if she.he trians horses and c if they can help u out

You have the wrong horse! Git rid of him and find a nice gentle, well trained horse to relearn on.

The good news is you don't own him so cut your losses and RUN.

well i think so you don't even more afraid of horses, you should try leasing a new horse thast is gentle and well trained for you so you can gain your confidence back because i don't think that that TB is a good confidence builder for you. When you train your QH you should do it with parelli natural horsemanship my horse is trained with that because her owner trained her for that and my horse is always so calm and docile and it's a good way to train them but it does take alot of time and patience but it is definatly worth it. I think that you should lease an older, calmer horse that is well trained and aybe consider getting some lessons to boost your confidence! good luck

the horse is not safe you should try to find out y the horse might have done that ask the owners if something has happened to it

maybe lease something a bit more suitable for building your confidence to get you ready for a young horse.

good luck :)

aw I see get a trainer to help ASAP!

or...........leave his halter on ,get a treat stand out side the pen put his lead rope on from the out side ,then open the gate