Regrets from childhood?

Question

When you reflect upon your life, childhood, and adolescence, did you ever get the feeling that you wanted your parents to push you more into certain areas (such as sports/culture) or that your development in a certain area could have been better if you were in a difference environment?

For example, do you ever regret not learning an instrument, now knowing that having the ability to play instrument is required for academic success and right now it is too late to learn an instrument? And this also for sports, if you had more pushing parents, you could be an amazing athlete only if you started playing a sport - such as football - when you were very young. Furthermore, if you grew up in America and not a different country, you would have a better education and hence a better life. 

What do you guys think? I am just curious.

guru · Accepted Answer

Pushing anyone to do anything that they don't want to do is a battle that I avoid. If you found that later in life, you regret not having learned to play an instrument it is far better in my view to understand why you didn't do so at the time and then make the decision today if you will pursue learning the instrument or not.

Assuming that you would have a better life is flawed reasoning. You could have done all of those things and life could have turned out worse. I found it was more helpful to understand how and why I made the choices that I did rather than lament the choices.

bigcherrybomb · Answer

honestly what my parents did or did not do is their problem. i have had to deal with what they did or did not do but spent the whole time just reacting. i do occasionally wish that they had done more for me than they did. i could have used a person on my side a few times. i could have used help but they thought being a lone wolf was better than being part of the pack. i've been marching to my own drum cuz it was the only beat i heard. i never learned how to be part of anything not even a family and i always felt as if i never had a home. they always said it was their house not mine.  but i have survived and have done the best i can with what tools i was given.

expie · Answer

Regrets are a waste of time, as you never know the outcomes of probabilities, and all you really have is your experience.
Strangely, sometimes I feel regret for not being pushed more, and other times I feel regret for being pushed too much... so I figure my folks got it as right as they were able. :)

Anonymous · Answer

No regrets, my childhood was a very spoiled one to say the least.

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