Who can Help me? I need mature answers. ?

I need someone to pull me out of misery. I am rejecting my boyfriend of 3 years by refusing to talk to him or taking up on his offer to go out together. 3 years and he cant' make up his mind to move in the same directions. All he would do is say that he loves me in private and go out sometimes when he finished his fishing and Halalaring. I feel really hurt as when I called him he is often not available. It's only when I reject him he said call me if you want. I know then he would make himself available. I am just getting very ill of this when you said no more to him only he would call me more often and make himself available. I love him but it really hurts me when he rejects. and now I am doing this to him. I find it hard to talk to him about my feelings as he would just say " I will have to go away somewhere if there is so much grief." He is probably waiting for my phone call but I feel sick about his indecisiveness. He is not willing to commit. He still lives in the house that he bought with his ex as he doesn't want to loose any money by selling it and give some share back to his ex. He did asked me to go and live with him but I don't like the idea. I see it as a lack of commitment to me and to our futures together. He would base his decision on money and I don't agree With it. I think if the love is strong money will just come and everything will follow. I am feeling so sick right now but I know it's the price I pay to break the cycle. I want to live a fullfilled life with my true partner who's have the same goal with me and we are moving in the same direction in life. I want a partner who is sure and loving. I don't need doubts in my life! I need to live life to the full, sharing my joy, the little wonders from everyday with the person I love. I don't need a person who say one thing and do the other. He does nice things at times but the value we share is far from the same. I want to get rid of him without pain. please help me!