How can I regain the trust of my girlfriend?

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My girlfriend works with a woman who is friends with my ex. This woman tells her things about me that are not true. Examples are, telling her that I told my ex that I still love her which I never did and telling her that I was at the bar when I was not. This has made my girlfriend question my credibility and whether or not she can trust me or believe me when I tell her I do not love my ex. I truly love my girlfriend and we have been through a rough time about a month ago. I am worried that I will lose my girlfriend because she is scared to open up to me or give 100% to our relationship since this happened. I don't go to the bars or talk to my ex at all and I don't know what to do anymore. This has been going on for a month and I recently figured out who has been telling her these things. We have been together for 7 months and had a great relationship before this all happened. I have no idea what to do anymore. Please help!

Update:

I confronted the co-worker who insisted it was never said, so I talked to my gf's friend who was told that I had done these things and she confirmed that it was said(I get along with the friend very well and she likes me). I told the co-worker I knew it was said and then she got defensive and said dhe was "done with it, sorry!" I told her off and told my gf everything that went down. She still has trust issues and has distanced herself from me. Still says she loves me and misses me though.

smorsett02 · Accepted Answer

Confront the co-worker!

Anonymous · Answer

For one thing you need to tell that ex's best friend to back off. If you have to call her even, call her out on the immature lying she is doing. Then tell your girlfriend the truth; that you haven't done those things and you have confronted those immature b!tches on it. Once you have explained everything to her she will understand (I am sure she has dealt with people like that).

aliceyumm · Answer

This sounds so annoying.I mean it has caused unneeded problems.She needs to believe your word over these people.I know I it must feel to hear this on her part.But these are just people that are no good with no life.gossip is no good.I don't know what really you can do it sounds like its up to her.What she wants to believe.I would go pick her up at work one-day and bring her flowers show her that you do care and love maybe this can prove just some sort of devotion.Good Luck!!!

jojo · Answer

sweetheart, im in your place right now.
and mine and my boyfriends relationship is gettin a whole lot better.
just remain doing what your doing, your showing her that you really do love her enough to stop doin things like going to the bar, just to get her trust back. and that shows alot. just dont screw anything up. cause if she doesnt trust you 100% right now, one little thing can mess up everything.
dont even let that ex of yours bother you..act like it doesnt matter to you at all. let your girlfriend know that she means the world to you and that your willing to make some changes (even if you havent done anything).
let her know your not that kinda person to do that to a girl and that your ex means NOTHING to you cause if she did then you would be with her and not with who you are with right now.

? · Answer

It will just take time. I am sorry that this is happening to the two of you! Be extra special nice over the Holidays...and just BE there 100% and be patient. Your actions will prove your worth!

Timothy G · Answer

your x is the demon  and guys are dogs  so you lose both ways but it takes two to be bad. nobody gives 100% we save a little till later
Take your girl to the bar and tell her you luv her... just like x files Trust No One

Michelle M · Answer

shes insecure and get a woman that does not work with an ex.tell her if theres no trust then theres no us.

Anonymous · Answer

kick the sh*t out of the coworker for f*cking up your life

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