How to get over with him and still be nice? ?

Question

Been together for 3 years. I realised that he is not able to provide me the emotional support I need. He doesn't need anything emotional according to him. He told me that men are not emotional but they like women that's why they put up with the crap and be around them. I tried to exit the relationship but he ignore me. He bought me a laptop for Christmas. Spend quite a bit of money. I have been planning to get one for long time and still saving money for it. He went ahead of me and got one for me but for some strange reason I don't feel happy about it. I told him that he shocked me and asked him to get a refund. He said that it can not be refunded. What are the best ways to refuse him?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Listen he is not worthy of your niceness, if he really is a MEN he should express his emotional side aswell. This is one of those MaCHO men that think emotion is not real. I'm a MEN and i let my girl open up to me and be emotional, that what being a MEN is. Listen, tell him exactly how you feel, if he doesn't commit to change his MACHO men ways, leave him. There would be alot of better men out there waiting for you with open arms. You deserve way better!!! I hope this answered your question. Have a great day and happy new years!

Carolyn M · Answer

It is obvious that this relationship is uncaring and unfeeling. Instead of leading things on, simply be firm and tell him things are not working out and you don't feel a connection because of the lack of emotion in the relationship. Leave the laptop behind unless he really wants you to have it, or unless you won't feel guilty. Trust me, you need to break away so that all hearts can heal and everyone can move on.

Holly · Answer

it sounds like u ARE over him, but HE wont let go.  give the lap top back, tell him you CANNOT accept it.  why cant it b refunded?  is it hot?  refurbished used one?  or was it a lie?  
any guy who says that guys arent emotional is dead WRONG!!  any guy who says-for any reason-thats y they put up w/crap from women is FULL of crap!  AND has a VERY low opinion of women.
you didnt try hard enough to end it.  you LET him ignore you, bully you into keeping the relationship going.  if you really want it to end, stand strong n DO IT!

laxlunatic92 · Answer

Just give him the laptop back and tell him right in front of his face that you want to end this relationship; tell him exactly why and if he doesn't improve you are going to go on to someone else.

rrredbird · Answer

you are playing games,you cant make up your mind,you are letting him control you.until you make up your mind what you want and get up enough courage this will go on and on,you are just looking for sympathy,you wont get it from me,wen I meet a girl like you and she don't want me,I am gone,there are too many woman in the world,to be bothered with a mentally dysfunctional woman like you,

Weber · Answer

honestly, and with compassion.
can you be friends later? it takes both of you to make that happen.

i can totally be friends with my ex's but some refuse to be my friend. that's ok...

this sounds like a complicated situation. my heart goes out to you.

Anonymous · Answer

try to act like you dont like him as a boyfriend but more as a friend.if he still wants you he will want you even more after that

dani · Answer

i dont think u should be nice...... coz its like he's bribing u for a relationship........ just be straight with whatever u want to say to him

Trending News

How to get over with him and still be nice? ?

8 Answers