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How can I get him to trust me and quit smothering me?

I have been married for 30 years, I have never cheated, EVER. I was a stay at home mom for the first 25 years as 2 of our kids had multiple disabilities, my life pretty much revolved around him and the kids, and I had no close friends. NOw the kids are grown and I am proud that I have a good job, and good friends as well. I am very frustrated because my husband freaks out if I want to do something with the girls. I am 50 years old and if I want to stop at the bar after work for a few drinks with my friends he makes my life hell. This afternoon my friends called and invited me for a few drinks to celebrate Christmas (a day late), he ended up going with me, so it was 6 of my girl friends, myself and my husband. Then he caught an attitude and decided to cancel our plans for the evening for a couples night with a bunch of our mutual friends. Not because he had better plans, he came home and crashed out on the sofa, woo hoo! I do not hate my husband, I love him, have 30 years invested, that's hard to throw away, but he is seriously driving me crazy! Any suggestions?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    MEN! Who understands them! My husband was a lot like this when I first went to work too. We finally went for marriage counseling and it helped, it was his idea in the end as I was about to give up. I know you deserve to have some fun after devoting your life to your family! With you inviting him to go along it is amazing that he still feels hurt. Just tell him you love only him and that you want to have some fun and fit in a little bit and would appreciate his trust!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • 1 decade ago

    Hello my dear friend the best way to have your Boy friend or hunsband trst again is take him out to first place or location that that you both where met and and remind him about the fisrt day of your relationship.

    Try it and give a feedback.

    Source(s): At tgis moment, I am single with 13 year old, me and wife being together for 25 years untill the Univerty,she was 35 yars old when she died with my shoot by the army and now I cry everyday, I am 43 and now I am looking for aman at least 10 to 120myears older than me so we both can have an honest relationship. Also I am not looking for every woman, my test is a supretr plus size woma because I belieive their size is equal to teir LOVE! I think you will be OK just by seating down with yor man and talking to him again and again, You will think it is magic. Looking forward to reading your mail. Get my rgards diazz
  • 1 decade ago

    Cyber on the internet when he's busy sleeping on the sofa.

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