problem about parents?

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for 23 years or as long as i can remember my parents has always treated my like dirt and treats my brother and my older sister and little sister like they are royality.  

This in return has caused me a number of troubles like depression, axiety and the fact that my parents never approved of anyting boarderline personality disorder.  the fact that i have adhd doesnt help.  This all leads to me in seeing a shrink for all the above problems.

they are always telling me that im fat, stupid, and ugly and a lier, when i never lie about anything.  I would move out but i dont have the money to do that right now. They have distroyed my childhood and there is no way that ill ever forgive them for what they have done to me.

I know for a well fact that my parents hate me with a passion.  Would having family theapy help resolve these problems?

if not then what can i do to help improve this situation when they ignore my all the time and i know that they dont have a hearing problem.

Melanie · Accepted Answer

Sorry to hear things are not good for you.  Continue seeing your shrink.  Try to remember that you are in control of your emotions and reactions.  YOU have the power to react any way you want to.  Forgiveness of others is a way to release yourself from the hold they have over you.  Forgiveness if not forgetting, it is denying them the ability to chain you to negative feelings.  It also takes time.  You have to say it until you believe it, it will chip away.  Focus on improving yourself.  If you are overweight, prove them wrong, workout and become healthier.  If you haven't gone all the way through school, go back and get a degree.  Take away the things that they say you are and prove them wrong.  You control your life.  I grew up in a good home, but I still have depression and anxiety, but once I took control of my life (or I should say turned it over to the Lord), things have improved greatly.  You may want to look around locally and see if there is a group called Celebrate Recovery near you.  It is a group that helps people work though issues (hurts, habits, and/or hangups), I felt very accepted and met some great people when I started going.  I don't have any addictions, but I had so many hurts in my life and habits that allowed myself to continue being hurt, that it made a huge difference for me.  Good luck and God Bless

larianyla · Answer

Family therapy may help you greatly, but not completely. Therapy can't fix everything.

Aimee · Answer

you sound like you definately need professional help.

Anonymous · Answer

move out!

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