Can I have some advise? I think my fiance is going to break up with me...?

Please understand that your feelings are neither right nor wrong ~ they just are.

I would recommend that you take a personality type indicator, that will show you what your preferred methods of gathering information are and also how you reach decisions and where you get your energy from. I suspect that there is a bit of a disconnect between you and your sweetie.

There is also one for couples that is very interesting.

I wish you well, you are wise to see this as a red flag at this point in your relationship.

He did tell you what he wants, and you didn't listen. He gave you several months to change, and you kept right on doing what he asked you not to do. You feel abandoned? Why? You have completely ignored his feelings and done nothing to attempt to make him happy, so why should you feel abandoned, when you are the one who has ignored him. If you want him in your life, make an effort. Get a reliable babysitter. Go spend some time with him. It doesn't have to be every day, but a couple of hours a week would do wonders. And next time you have an emergency that you handle, tell him about it pronto. You have shut him out. I'm amazed he's hung around this long.

Your both right and wrong. You may be independent but every man wants to feel like he's wanted and needed in a relationship. You both keep different schedules and have your own children and households and I'm sure you both have different parenting styles. As a woman, you put your children first and should be applauded for it but do not feel punished for it -- you are doing what you have to do for the sake of your family just like I'm sure he is doing for his.

He may be right in saying that you don't have a relationship because it may not be the kind of relationship that he wants but works for you. There are many types of relationships out there and sadly this one may not be the kind that works for the two of you. It sounds like he does care about you, wants more of you but you can't/won't make yourself available.

It sounds like you both care about it each other and have really tried in your own way to make it work but it seems as if either side is going to have to give up something and compromise. If you can't give more and if he can't accept less, then it may be time to move it.

It doesn't make either of you bad people maybe just bad for each other.

i'm in that situation right now (7 years down the drain). i'm a guy, but i guess it should be universal for all people who break up, me thinks. anyway, it hurts like hell. what you need to do, is be there. when she cries, let her cry, don't say shush or something. let her let it all out. there's no time frame for healing. when she wants to talk, let her talk her heart out and some more. she needs all the understanding in the world. a really good game of tennis or any other sport would help. nothing beats exhaustion to numb the pain. but if your friend was my fiance, let her rot in hell. sorry. :p

It sucks because I broke up with an girlfriend because I was working 7 days a week and only had time at night. We tried to figure things out but it didn't work. It was either breaking up with her or quitting my job. But I believe that there is a solution to this problem I have yet to found it.

Once you marry you will be under the same roof.....youll have more time together.....and the family emergancy thing....you really should have said something sooner...my husband doesn't tell me anything either and it is hurtfull I feel like i am not important enough to know whats going on in his life

It sounds like a basic difference in communication styles. It happens. I suggest postponing the wedding (if it is soon) and going to premarital counseling.

I agree with TSCO you should get some help for your relationship, but I also believe that he should know that you have an obligation to your children too.

You're MUCH better off without him, he is a baby and a case of arrested development. Let him go home to mama.

personally, I think he sounds selfish and insecure. You, on the other hand, sound independent and self-assured. You don't need his immature crap... really... he sounds like he wants to to accomodate his needs and screw yours!!

Keep on looking, this guy doesnt sound right for you...