Why don't the men complaining about gold diggers try dating professional women?

I don't understand how a lot of men on here moan they want housewives and then moan that the women rely on them for money. Make up your minds, it can't be both ways round.

Edit: Driver below me demonstrates why some men dont want a women to be equal because they are scared they have nohing else to offer but money. What a horrible way of looking at things and if I was a man I would prefer a woman to love me for me not for what I was providing.

What counts as gold digger?

If a person is staying with a rich person just for the money, that's a gold digger. It's bad because it's lying. What if a person is staying with a rich person and you happen to be poor and the other person happens to be rich. Is that gold digging too? I think as long as two people are happy, it doesn't matter who has how much money.

I dated a guy who I really liked before. He wasn't rich but I was really poor at the time. He bought me stuff but it doesn't mean that's the reason I was with him. He was always there for me. I was really touched that his whole family accepted me too. I'm not poor anymore, but I wouldn't forget that he took care of me when I really needed it.

Money is just money. If you could help out someone you love, I don't see a problem whether it's men or women.

There is nothing hard about that. I did just what you said but couldn't bring my finances to match the nurse's because of the b.s. of the down's of life I seem to be chained to. I know some guys in a similar situation. So she left me (as their wives left them). My point? Professional women want you to bring something to the table (match their finances), even if you are not a free-loader (don't use her for her money, don't move in with her and free-load off her expenditures, and you take full responsibility for yourself the best way you can within the power you have and ask her for nothing). This kind of guy, I'm one on them, is under-appreciated gets passed over. My other point, the human race has existed successfully long before there has been a stock market. Men and women had no problems inter-relating during the depression, during other times of financial strife, etc. got married, had families, etc and people continued to live. Men took the bus to go see their girlfriends and it was no problem for the girlfriends of those earlier times. Today, if a man has to do that (and this bad economy may force you to consider this) and these women learn of this, the ladies will laugh at you and blow you off. Rich men enable this behavior with their monetary gifts to women, so this is not all on the ladies, many men are a HUGE part of the problem. So why must people today be stupid and measure people by the money they have or don't have when it hasn't mattered prior to these recent times (the last 20 to 30 years prior to 2013). If this continues, the men who are in the have not category, who do take FULL responsibility for themselves, will be without wives, many women will maintain this idea that a man without money or without a sufficient amount of it, is not a man, and extinction seems possible (save for sperm donation and being rich). This is NOT the way the Lord intended for it to be as explained in Genesis 2: v19-25 KJV. May seem ridiculous to use this scripture, but it's the truth, can't have a stable and sane human race without a good husband and wife/good father and mother. At the very least of keeping man alive, a man and woman are needed when it comes to sperm collection) unless the Lord has to start over again using dirt. It's a freekin shame that no one is outraged by this stupid behavior.

It's about control. The partner who makes the most money is the one who gets to make the final decisions. The men who marry gold diggers desperately want to be the one who makes the final decisions at home. Being in control is a core contributor to their self-esteem.

FYI, I've seen this in the gay and lesbian community as well. It's the same for all couples where one of them is significantly more well off than the other. The rich one is in control and will not budge on this issue.

The risk is still there, even if she makes more than average, although it is a smaller risk. Now, the real cure for this problem is to date longer, ask difficult questions, and bypass your dumbstick and actually notice when she shows signs of unsuitability.

Because it's always the fault of women. They don't understand that they are just as superficial and shallow for being Gold Throwers.

I just use my head and avoid the gold digger, so no worries here. Are professional women less likely to be gold digger? Maybe; but that doesn't mean they don't exist. I personally know some women who have solid career but still care about the size of men's wallet and how wealthy they are.

""in fact in Australia, in the 18-29 age group women actually earn slightly more than their male peers.""

Whoa! that basically throw the whole "wage gap" crap out of the window, eh?

your idea does seem valid, however money does reduce the chance of finding someone genuinely interested in the person. what you suggest may bring a higher chance though.

personally i want a woman like me, someone thats my equal challenges me, comforts me, makes me laugh, inspires me. if i could i would clone a female version of myself. it's should never be about i am better or worse than that person it should be that person fits better with me than that person; i feel alive and young around that person more. etc.

for most men, women who have a lot in material wealth just don't neede them for much of anything well except the obvious.

Let me be honest. I've dated both types. those women who have and those who have not. both are interesting, but the woman who has wants to control and that ain't never gonna be allowed by my so fragile ego. I actually need, that is need to know that i am important and am a contributer to her happiness, and yes i too need security.

if she has all that i provide then she can go on bout her business at anytime the feeling moves her. there is no security there.

truth be told both sexes want the same thing. we want to know we are wanted and that we're important to the other.

There are some pretty hot gold diggers.