My Dad recieved a letter in the mail from NY State Child Support for a girl I have never heard of in my life?

"I have never heard of this girl in my 21 years of life."

It was none of your business and I'm sure your father wanted it to stay that way.

"We're a happy family"

Are you saying that now you're NOT a happy family.

"I have two siblings, an older sister and a younger brother. Our mom died a few years back."

It seems your father has decided to get on with his life but you feel he has no right to do that. Is that correct?

" I know I shouldn't have, but I opened it."

Bingo, as I said... It was none of your business.

"What do i do???"

Here's the problem. This is NOT about you. This is about your father and what he does. What HE DOES will tell you a great deal about what kind of man he is.

One question!

Did your father never question why someone had opened his mail?

As a Chinese, my English is not very well,so:

Come on, man! Your farther is still your farther, nothing can change this. I think maybe its a big mistake your have made when he was a young boy. 1990, yeh, 18 years before. Just put the letter to somewhere and make sure your father can see it, and don't let him know that you've readed it already. I do believe your father will solve this problem very well.

And young man, I am really sorry about your mom. Everything gonna be ok, really.

hope can help you. Best wishes.

first thing you did was a felony-you had no right to open your Father's mail as it is none of your business

As far as what you should do is give your letter to your father and tell him your sorry your a snoop but you just had to know what is going on as this is what young girls do they put their nose in where it does not belong.

Mistake probably not paternity tests/DNA does not lie, back child support could be owed -it is your dad's issue not yours mind your own business

I am sorry your mother passed on but your dad is an adult and has needs

You have the right to know who your family members are. I would come out and ask him like I asked my mother where the son was she had when he was 16? She did not answer me because she was embarrassed I would look for him, well my mother died of a stroke she would have been the ONLY person to have helped me find him. Guess what I never found out, don't know if he is still around, don't know one bit of information about him to find him. I have no sis' and brothers, would have been kinda nice.

I would ask your dad, you never know he may be willing to talk to you especially if you two have a close relationship. Don't be too judgemental or argumentative when you talk to him. If he doesn't want to talk well you will have to respect his wishes. It's tough, but hopefully he will open up with you. I was in a similiar situation - I have an older sister that I don't know as well. She was adopted before I was born - it's a long story. I would love to find her, but will have to do so later when my parents are ready due to my parents do not want to find her. It's their wishes and I respect that.

i highly doubt it is a mistake. they typically perform paternity tests before demanding child support from someone. i am a little surprised that a girl who was born in 1990 would need child support because she is now 18. i would be honest with your father and ask him about it. it's the only way you will know.

Maybe he knows of her.

It could be a big mistake or it could be legit.

I would give him the letter and don't ask him about it until he is ready to tell you something. Even happy families have secrets.

You don't have to know them for your dad to be the dad in question. A DNA test will sort this out one way or the other.

You're an adult, and so is your new found sister. Go meet her and celebrate New Year's together.