If you ask a girl to be your bridesmaid, and then she stops talking to you...what does that mean?

I would contact her asap and confront the situation. communication is always best. And the longer you leave things the more time there is to have crazy ideas slip into your head and hers. Be honest and require the same from her.

I think you're just going to have call her. Don't take a voicemail as an answer either. You need to talk to her, ask her point blank if she does or does not want to be a bridesmaid. If she does want to be a bridesmaid, tell her how her lack of interest makes you feel and work with her to figure out how she can feel more involved without making her feel guilty.

Its hard to be an out of state bridesmaid. I should know- I've been one 3 times now. OOS bridesmaid can't shop with you, plan showers with the other bridesmaids...

If she doesn't want to be a bridesmaid. Ask if she would still like to come as a guest. Just be honest with her. Hopefully she'll be honest with you. And hopefully this won't be a friendship breaker.

Good luck.

Maybe she's busy. At any rate, if she's not going to help, then what is there to talk about, wedding-wise?

Did you talk to her a lot before you asked her to be a bridesmaid? If so, then call her up and say, "Hey, we haven't talked in a while. What's new with you?"

But if you never really kept in touch after she moved away, except for an occasionaly phone call or e-mail, then why would that change now?

well if she doesn't have to buy a dress, I don't see the reason she wouldn't want to be in the wedding. maybe she doesn't want to help plan the shower, show up for the rehearsal, pay for the bachelorette etc. if she came out and told you she doesn't want to do planning of events, that works out fine because she lives far away anyway. ask her if she wants to be included in the bachelorette and shower or if she'd rather just come to the wedding as a guest, give her an out.

When YOU, the Bride and Groom, are selecting your wedding party members you need to ask yourself these questions about each person that you are considering . .

Is this a mature person who can handle just about anything?

Is this personal responsible?

Is this person dependable?

Is this person selfish or self-centered?

Will this person be there when I need them?

Is this person cooperative and helpful?

Is this person going to complain about anything and everything?

Am I asking this person to be in my wedding just because I was in their wedding?

And most importantly, can this person afford to be in a wedding (time and money)?

Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant

It's hard to work out without asking her directly. I asked a girl to be a B< and she's been blanking me since October. I filled her position on Christmas day. You don't need unsupportive people in your wedding.

She might not be able to afford being in your wedding, and maybe she doesn't have time to help plan. She might also feel bad, that might be why she's not calling you. Try calling her, and asking if everything is okay. I wish you the best. :)

If someone stops talking to me, it means they're giving me the gift of peace and quiet, to which I gladly return the favour in kind.

id say her answers no