Am I Too Sensitive For Feeling This Way?

I think you should make sure she's only going with girlfriends. Do you drink? Eat? Listen to music? Watch other people dance? Gambling and dancing aren't the only things to do at a casino.

I hate to say it, but by her saying that you two are not compatible and her getting so defensive and mad, it just doesn't sound right to me and maybe you are feeling the way you do for a good reason. Didn't she know if you were compatible 8 years ago?

Maybe you should go out with the guys and do your own thing also. She won't have the comfort of knowing that you are at home. I think it's mean for her to leave you home on New Years and not wanting to give you the option of coming with.

P.S.: I know a lot of people don't ever get married and stay together; has that ever been an issue? Have you ever proposed and she declined, or never proposed? I know I wouldn't wait for more than 2 years for a proposal or to know if I want to marry someone and then I'd be out of there just like in a job. Maybe you two don't need your relationship to advance any further?

NINE YEARS????? You've spent 9 years with a girl without proposing to her? How can that be? When you meet the one for you, its obvious. I mean REALLY obvious.

Honestly, go out New years eve on your own or with friends and have fun. Then, do some serious pondering about whether you want to marry this girl, yes or no. There's no maybe. There's no "not right now". There's now, or there's never. After 9 years, this shouldn't take long. If it does, then you'll learn what your GF is really troubled about.

She kinda sounds like me. I have been in that situation and here are the results. She is leaving you at home because she figures she will have more fun without you. Plus, why bring sand to the beach when there will be plenty of guys where they are going. You guys have been together 9 years and I think that is mostly because she knows you would never leave her.

I know she can be sweet at times and you love being around her but speaking from experience...find somebody else. It will not end well and you will feel like you wasted so much time.

not at all. You're not wrong attt alll.

You may feel that way because you've been together for so long but its not wrong.

Honestly i tink you should just tell her that you would like to go and you will try to dance and gamble alittle just for her.

Then say "I have to talk to you" And then like talk to her about what you feel because holding it in isn't healthy at all and it can get worse. Tell her you just want to let it out and you love her to much to keep t inside to get worse.. if something happens then its her fault, not yours. Don't keep it inside the whole time.

Wow I just got touch by what you said about your self well any ways I think u need a new gf it looks like she is kidda getting tire of you or you can try to tell her that you want to go with her to the casino & buy her flowers you know turn her on.

Your not wrong for feeling how you do. Sounds like she doesn't think much of you if she doesn't want to spend new years with you, doesn't say sorry for her actions etc.. Why are you with her as she is taking you for granted i think.. I don't think your relationship is going to last with how things are going.

Speak to her and if that doesn't change anything then i am sorry to say but you need to find someone who wants to be equal with you and care about you and your feelings

yea that sucks. but sometimes change is good. maybe you should hang out with your friends instead too. pushing her to hang out with you will only drive her away. dont take it so personal. it was inconsiderate of her to just bail on you like that. but just go with the flow. do your own thing. she'll later regret it.

p.s. ALWAYS speak your mind but dont be spiteful that will only lead to more problems.

all the best!

No, it's not you, it's her. She seems so self-centered and selfish. No offense or anything. If you still love her, show her that, and that every time she's like this to you, tell her it hurts you. See how she reacts. If she still doesn't get it, it may be that she might be caring less about you. Try to bring out her motherly instincts, too. It may also work.

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no your defintely not being too sensitive, i have a friend of almost my whole life just like your gf and really the best thing to is to let her believe shes right and shake it off, otherwise being constantly mad at one another will be routine