How do I quit drinking when I don't actually want to?

I'm in the same place as you. My partner says I have a drinking problem because I mix one cocktail a night. I don't see it as a problem but he gets very upset about it and its ruining our relationship. I don't want to stop but I know I have to.

Its 8:22am and I didn't have a drink last night. I feel fine, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't want one. The only thing that stopped me was that I spent all night chatting on the internet and playing my brand new game on my DS. The excitement of it all was enough to distract me away from the panic of not having my nightly drink.

If you can find something to take your mind away from it, you should be able to gradually ease out of the habit and aquire a better one. Do you have other things you can do or friends you can call for support?

Rosie

What your saying is not unusual. In fact it is part of the difficulty.

I'd also like to hump Angelina Jolie, but I guess the chances of that are unlikely. So shall I dwell on my fantasy or adjust to my world as it is?

I wish you well with your efforts.

Try smartrecovery.org

I don't know that it's possible to quit without having the motivation and desire to do so. Some people seem to be able to get started by being forced or being scared, but somewhere along the line, I do think it needs to be something you truly want for yourself.

I know that when I quit drinking ten years ago I was willing to do anything to quit...anything. I was going to quit or die trying. I'm not saying it's that way for everyone, but that's how I felt about it. Still do, although I have no desire to drink anymore.

Check out smart recovery when you get the chance though. There are some tools there that might help you on your way.

You seem to just want to moan and groan about your troubles but not do anything about them. If you don't "Get" AA, that also sounds to me like you're not serious. When you get fired or have to get a new liver, maybe then you'll get motivated enough. Until then, you don't want it bad enough, regardless of what you say. And when you don't want it, you won't be able to see anything through, and you won't "get" any treatment programs.

LOL!! You sound like my husband. Admitting you have a problem is the first step!! He admitted that problem 20 years ago, still drinking!!! Sink or swim I guess.

you have to want to quit!