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4 Years Age Difference....?
I know everyone's probably tired of hearing these types of questions, but I'm 4 years older than this girl that I really like. She likes me too but she's worried about what everyone else will say. I don't mind being ridiculed by anybody as long as we can be together. I've told her before I won't try to force her to do things that she doesn't want to and she's said she believes me. Is 4 years really that much of a difference? I don't feel like it matters. She'll be 14 in a few months and I just turned 17. So I guess its really just 3 and a half years.
I've known her for a few years now. But we just started really talking in the past few months. We've been calling each other constantly. I think we spend at least 2 hours a day on the phone, and another 4 or 5 on messenger together. So there's no problem with communication. There is another problem though. She has a Boyfriend. She doesn't talk about him much and I try not to pry but when he sees us near each other he gives me some heated looks. It's not my fault he doesn't spend more time with her. He easily could but doesn't. When I see her sitting there alone I just can't help myself. I go to talk to her and he starts to look jealous.
I don't know if this is a sign or not, I'm pretty clueless sometimes, but she bought me a really cool necklace for Christmas and all her family members thought I was her bf because of it. Her parents seem to approve of me. Oh wow I'm not even sure if this is a question anymore. I guess I'm just venting right now. What do you guys think of this situation though?
I know people are going to wonder if I'm going to pressure her into having sex, but I have no intentions of doing it for quite a while. I've had a few opportunities to do it and I've never been tempted. I have a brother and we're from separate mothers and I've seen how messed up things can get. This is not something I want to do unless I'm SURE that this girl and I were meant to be. Everyone tries to rush me into doing it but when they do I just walk away or I take them aside and explain to them exactly why I don't care to do it yet and they don't bring it up again. So all my friends will know how I feel about it. Especially my Ex's.
6 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
First off, i would cool it with her until she decides what is going on between her and her boyfriend, it's just not fair to him and you don't want to get into a bad situaton. I do think 14 is a little young, but my cousin met his wife when she was 11 and there was no keeping them apart. They are now happilly married with a baby, they have been together a total of 13 years. Sometimes the heart has no age limit. BUT i would still be very careful since she is so young. You have to know where to draw the line.
- 5 years ago
This may sound corny, but do what your heart tells you. If you really like him, don't let a petty difference like age get in the way of your friendship/liking. Think of you parents--how far apart are they? Mine are 5 years. If they had met earlier, then they would have had that much longer to enjoy each other's company. Hope this helps! Best of luck.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
it looks a little bad, but you are both young. you should enjoy it
- Anonymous1 decade ago
If you get together then I suppose its not a big deal. But don't push her sexually. Goodluck.
- 1 decade ago
This all depends on your motives with her. Sex or anything intimate could be sticky depending on what your state laws are and break-ups, etc.
But if you sincerely care about her, and want to date her, then talk to her parents. Those are really the only people that can truly say yay or nay.
Since you are 17, people are going to wonder about what you really are doing with a 13 year old girl, but as long as her parents and she consent, then it should be okay.
I don't mean to preach, but she is just a young teenager, so be sure to treat her right and not pressure her.
Good luck ! =)
- 1 decade ago
its perfectly fine, i was in the same situation. and im happy now that were together.
