Asking parents to marry their daughter?

I think asking the girl's parents for permission to marry her is a lovely, respectful tradition that helps the groom to get on or continue on the right foot with the in-laws.

It's one of the few things you can do that really doesn't have a downside--as long as you know they are in favor of the union!

Tell them you have something to disguss with them and invite them out for lunch or a quick cup of coffee as k them to come alone and not to bring there daughter because what you are asking involves her and you want to keep it a secret. Just explain to them that you would like to have discussion that involves the future of you and there daughter if her parents are not a couple of dummies they will eventually realize you may be asking for there daughters hand in marriage. Just to let you know traditionally the man would get the blessing and the go ahead from the father and then he would let the mother no of your intentions if he is okay with it then it should be fine so it may be easier to invite pops out for a beer at the local pub and have your conversation. Heres a future congratulations if all goes well and God Bless & Good Luck. Remember Marriage is a big step but well worth it if you are ready to be faithful and loving to this one lucky lady for the rest of your life.

It is very traditional, and usually depends on if the girl's family is traditional or not. It also depends heavily on the girl's age. For example, if she is over 30 and definitely her own person already, it would be beyond strange for you to ask her parents. However, if she is only 19 or 20 and still financially dependent on her parents, then it would be good taste to ask her parents- if they are up for that kind of thing. I had a friend who was young when she got engaged, also close to her parents emotionally, but she was already fiercely independent that it would have been an insult for her fiance to ask her parents first. Your best bet is probably to look at all these options, then ask her friends for their opinion if you are still puzzled. Good luck!

My sister's boyfriend proposed on Christmas Eve, in front of almost my entire family (about 25 people). He talked to my Dad about it first. He didn't ask him, he just warned him what was going to happen.

I would say that that's the way to go. Give the parents a heads-up, but don't make it all old-fashioned by asking them formally.

It is tradition to ask the father to marry his daughter...more than tradition it is the respectful thing to do if she and he are close. I don't think anyone would think it is weird, I think they would be surprised at how classy you are. If I were you I would take him golfing or out to dinner and reassure him that you will take care of her and let him be a part of it. Go for it!

If I really liked the guy my daughter was dating I would be very touched if he came to me first to tell me of his intent to ask my daughter to marry him. I would find that a very classy thing to do especially since it really isn't necessary in this day and age. I can't imagine her parents will find it weird at all.

Go for it. Marriage is sometimes hard and you need the support of family, hers and yours. Its a simple matter of respect for her and her family. It proves that one you are respectful, two that you are a man of character and three that you are bold enough to stand before them in courage to ask for her hand in marriage. There is no way to go wrong here.

If you get a lot of negative feedback, it gives you a huge insight as to the type of problems you may have in the future.

I think they will respect you alot for that, and it's the classy thing to do, really. If she is that close to her parents, she'll appreciate the gesture as well. I did this before I proposed, and her father really respected me for doing that.

It's still pretty common practice to ask the parents for their blessing. It may seem weird, but they will respect you for it and it will make the whole process easier if you know that they are behind you.

It is customary to ask the father for his daughter's hand in marriage. It's nice to know that shivery isn't dead. After all daddy has to pay for the wedding- that customary too.