So, my friend just got engaged...?

Lead the bridesmaid troupe. It's the maid/matron of honor's (MOH) job to direct the other maids through their duties. Make sure all bridesmaids get their dresses, go to dress fittings, and find the right jewelry. Also provide them with the 411 on all prewedding parties.

Help shop for dresses (the bride's and the bridesmaids'). And the MOH pays for her own entire wedding outfit (including shoes).

Offer to help the bride with prewedding tasks, from addressing invites to choosing the wedding colors and nodding enthusiastically when she waxes poetic about wedding cake.

Spread the news about where the bride and groom are registered.

Help the bride change for her honeymoon and take charge of her gown after the ceremony. Arrange for storage in a safe place until she returns.

Lend an ear. Whether it's about the planning, the marriage, or the registry china patterns, the MOH should assure the bride that she has someone with whom she can share her thoughts. Even if she seems to dwell on the same subjects repeatedly, the MOH keeps listening.

Host or cohost a shower for the bride.

Attend all prewedding parties.

Keep a record of all the gifts received at various parties and showers (or delegate a bridesmaid to handle this).

Plan the bachelorette party with the bridesmaids.

See to it that all bridesmaids get to the rehearsal; coordinate transportation and lodging, if necessary.

Make sure that all bridesmaids get their hair and makeup done, get to the ceremony on time, and have the correct bouquets.

Hold the groom's ring during the ceremony. Safest place to put it? On your thumb.

Arrange the bride's train and veil before the ceremony begins and just after she arrives at the altar. The MOH might also need to help her bustle the train for easy dancing at the reception.

Hold the bride's bouquet while the couple exchanges vows.

Sign the marriage license as a witness, along with the best man.

Stand next to the groom in the receiving line (this is optional; the bride may decide to have attendants circulate among the guests instead).

Play hostess along with the other bridesmaids at frequent points during the reception: show guests where to sit, direct them to restrooms, tell them to where to put presents, invite them to sign the guest book, etc.

Collect any gift envelopes brought to the reception and keep them in a safe place.

Make sure the bride takes a moment to eat something -- refresh her drink, get her a plate of food from the buffet table, or instruct the wait staff to keep her entree warm.

Dance with the best man during the formal first-dance sequence and possibly be announced with him at the beginning of the party. Also dance with other groomsmen, the groom, and others.

Toast the couple after the best man. (This is optional, but it is a nice touch.)

Troubleshoot emotional crises. In most cases, this will require lots of tissues, hugging, and hair-smoothing. The MOH continues to be a trusted friend, a good listener, and a smart advisor.

Keep the bride laughing. For the stressed-out bride, laughter can be as effective as venting

Honestly, the best task you have is to check in with her at least once a week, give her 10 good solid minutes to fill you in on all the details, let her vent, that means SOOOOOOOO much and it will keep you in the know since you both live so far apart, I am a bride 2 be, and that would mean more then anything to me.

Some commonly MOH tasks, the wedding shower, making sure you attend all the dress shopping and fittings, the stagette (if she wants one), giving your speech at the wedding, you hold her flowers at the wedding, you in the AM on the wedding date should have a list of things to do to ensure things are going smooth (for example: make sure all the appointments are a go, transportation is a go, catering is a go)...some of these things can be designated to other people, so dont get all worried if it all sounds like a whole bunch.

But your main job, to honor the bride in groom, to stand as a witness at the wedding, to support her through thick and thing.

Ask her. Find out how involved she wants you to be. Traditionally, you'll have a lot of responsibility, but with how modern brides think, she might want to take charge of certain things by herself.

basically wedding asistant! a helping hand for her as her friend. go dress shopping with her, help her out with other stuff for the wedding and so forth...(a maid) is someone who helps and so you help the bride with her big day