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Would you date someone.....?

I was wondering if you would date a person with kids....

I am a single mother of 2 wonderful kids. I have been single for 8 months now. My ex wants me back which I don't want him back. And the other day he told me that I wouldn't find another man because I have kids already and that the only man for me is him.

And I was wondering if you would date a women with kids already...

This is for girls or boys....

Okay, I'll give you the reason why I am not with my ex. My ex is such an ***.

He treated me with no respected. He called me names and even hit me a couple of times. He never bought anything for the kids. His partying and drinking were more inportant then his kids. We fought all the time and he hit me and gave me a black eye. So, I threw him out. And he called me the other day asking if I would take him back and when I told him no. Thats when he told me that I wouldn't find anyone else because of the kids. And that he is the only person that would want me.

So, now do you understand why I don't want him back.

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  • rob d
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
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    check out my avatar. i married a woman with two kids, and now we have a third together. Life couldn't be better for any of us. He don't know sh*t

  • 1 decade ago

    I had 2 kids, boy and a girl. They were 5 and 6 when I met my husband who has no kids and I could not have more.

    My Ex fed me that line of crap too and trust me - he is not only an abuser but a liar.

    Cliff and I will have been married 21 years this year. The kids love him dearly and they are everything to him.

    If I can give you one piece of advice is - even if you spend the rest of your days alone, it's better than spending them with someone who hurts you. Don't ever give up on finding your forever guy. There is someone out there who is perfect and wonderful for you who will love your kids too.

    Don't fall into the ugly rut. If you even sense the guy don't like your kids - he is not the right one and keep looking. You settled once and got your Ex. Don't do that again.

    Honey - you deserve better now go out and get it.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    From personal experience--

    I was divorced at 38. My ex wife and I had 4 kids and two of them live with me and two with her. When I was looking and dating almost all the women had children.

    When I met my wife I warned her that I had 4 kids and run if she wanted. She countered with a 6 month old child. We just got married in August. Don't listen to that crap.

  • 1 decade ago

    Yes, a man will date you and accept your kids also... may take a minute to find the right guy, but it will happen... may have to date a few times before finding the right guy... My suggestion is finding a guy that has kids also... As far as your ex goes, DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE GO BACK TO HIM NOT EVEN FOR A BOOTY CALL... THE FIRST HIT IS ALWAYS THE HARDEST THEY GET EASIER AND EASIER... YOU DO NOT DESREVE TO GET HIT BY ANYONE FOR ANY REASON... If you go back to him your gonna swell his head and he is gonna think that he has you wrapped around his finger...

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    my mom had 2 kids and my dad had 3 and they married and had me together. tho i hate him he tries but he doesnt know how to show respect and he drinks to much, lol, personally tho, i would definatley date a girl with two kids, my ex-girlfriend already had a kid and was prego with a kid when we broke up (not my kid, part of the reason i broke up) but i would definately date a woman with two kids, long as she was my type, or that i really liked her all would be good

  • 1 decade ago

    If I was single, I would have dated a guy with kids. I especially think that at a certain age people expect that when they meet other singles, they could easily have children.

  • 1 decade ago

    the only problem with dating single mom is you have to put up with the ex BF drama .

    the kids are not the problem .

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    There are plenty of guys out there that would date you.

    I completely understand why you threw him out.

    Congrats on that honey.

    :]

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    good you did that you should get a restraint order against him there is some one out there to love you for who you really are what a jerk telling you that kind of stuff

  • 1 decade ago

    kids not a problem

    forget ur Xlike he never existed..! fast !

    stay patient...there is no likely lines of guys rushing in relationship with you ...but normal guys exists and you are welcome to have better choice.....

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