Question for straight feminist women about men?

I was normally attracted to jocks. A couple of guys I dated were pretty closed minded and could be misogynist or at the very least sexist. Once the physical attraction cooled they were pretty easy to dump. Keep in mind some guys will act like poseurs to fit in with their crowd and truly feel quite differently when away from the macho nonsense.

I love men who are incredibly confident, bordering on arrogant, with every reason int he world to believe they are just THAT awesome haha =o)

Very dominant men. Seems like this site's okcool for this sorta thing so I'll say it, I'm into more than just being a bedroom submissive, and yes in the whole BDSM sense.

Feminist women here seem pretty fine with it. Which was a shock, I didn't think they would be.

In real life, I keep this pretty well hidden. My parents have some idea, but I think they view it as more of just a sexual kink. Fine to me, really. They don't need to really know it goes deeper, it may freak them out. Same with friends, some friend, even though we're really close and like family, I just have the sense they'd be concerned, so I don't tell them or make it open. The type of relationship I'm into worries a lot of people. No need for it, it's all by choice, but still.

Initially, I wouldn't have thought this would be accepted by most feminists, obviously that was my own fear since even 'average' women think it's kinda crazy haha =o)

At first it did conflict, I figured I had some sorta "issues" to work through. Granted, this was all when I was like 13-16, so everything is kinda jumbled at that age.

In my later teens, I realized whatever it was I wanted was right for me, as long as I wasn't hurting anyone else by it. Have been enjoying my relationships ever since. Works well with me, was what I'd always wanted, now I have it =o)

That's the problem with feminist thinking. They assume that the majority of men are living the good life, have all the good jobs, while the majority of women are suffering and living in poverty. While it's true that the majority of CEO's and high level execs are men, what feminists don't tell you is that men in most countries also make up the majority of the poor and the majority of those in poverty. You go down any major city street and you will notice that the majority of the bums, panhandler, and beggers, are men! Women, however are very conservative, and because of that, they're mostly in the middle.

I've been attracted to very different types of men at different times, for vastly different reasons. I don't really have a 'type' and I don't think that my feminist ideals have much to do with it.

His attitude toward women can't conflict with my feminist ideals. If he doesn't believe that women should be socially, politically, economically and in every other way equal to men, he's outta here.

I think a man who agrees with the feminist idea would suit. He's got to be open minded as far as gender roles--women are no longer in charge of doing the housework while the men go off to work. Now, both genders often work outside the home so both have to pitch in at home. It's a shared partnership. Yes, the women still carry and birth the babies but now the fathers can stay home and care for the kids too. It has to be that where there's a need, whoever is most available steps in to handle it. Both males and females, except for sexual parts, have the same body parts and can do the same kinds of housework--laundry, dishes, cleaning, shopping, childcare, etc. And at the work place, in vast majority, both genders can usually do the same work since gender isn't involved (which is why both genders should be paid equally). Are there conflicts? Definitely. People still wonder about a guy who stays home to take care of the kids instead of going back to work. Still even today, most of the housework still falls on the wife/woman. Women are still paid less for doing the exact same job as a man. How to deal with it? Like anything else, you sit down with your significant other and discuss the equal sharing of housework; if the other party won't pitch in then the relationship may become rocky (because usually there are other things that are inequal). I think many former women's lib women who subsequently got married have found that marriage is still inequitable for them (how many times do you hear married working women complaining bitterly about her husband NEVER helping with the housework).

I am a straight feminist woman (in the sense that I believe men and women ought to have equal rights- nothing more) so no, this belief has never affected my attraction to men.

I can be attracted to most types of men so long as they are a fundamentally nice guy. But I find a guy who can make me laugh really sexy. : )

Attracted to physically or personality?

Physically, my husband is 5'11" 150 lbs. blonde, blue eyes.

Personality, he's a jeans and t-shirt kinda guy. Blue collar, sports lover, who's a good man, good husband, good father, and has a wicked sense of humor that I love.

No, they've never conflicted with my feminist ideals. He has similar beliefs that women should be given equal social opportunities. He just doesn't label himself a feminist.

Someone with similar values and level of self confidence. An open mind is a must as well as a sharp wit/pretty high level of intelligence. He has to be kind and able to share of himself. My husband of almost 19 years and a father of my beautiful daughter is all of these things and much more. Now, people with deep seated hate for everything female could never find anything in common with me for obvious reasons. And if a man ever attempted to "show me my place" in a relationship, there would be no relationship to talk about ever.

I've always liked large men who are very confident but not arrogant. I've never been interested in "the money" guy type, but more down to earth hard working men. As long as work, have some kind of hobby or interest and are happy to spend the day with me I'm happy.

My husband would maybe not consider himself a feminist but he definitely treats me as his equal. He's the man in the relationship but I'm no less because I'm the woman, so no, my feminist ideals are not compromised.

i have dated all kinds of men- short, tall, fat, thin, muscular, hyper-masculine, feminist, artistic, nerd, athletic...i love all kinds of men. the main thing they all had in common was the ability to make me laugh...i love a guy with a sense of humor.