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LGBT: How can I help out my friend?
So, just a few moments ago my friend sends me an IM (I'm on as invisable, so she doesn't know that I am on) telling me how she's extremely depressed because this is a hard time for her. She says around this time last year her boyfriend broke up with her and she's still not over him.
Then she tells me to look at her display pic and in it you can see she cut her arm so that it says "hate." She then goes on to say that she showed her cousin it and al her cousin said was 'Cool! Lets Put Lemon On It' she was dissapointed because she wanted to hear something like, why did you do that?, Whats wrong, or im worried.
Then while still at her cousins house she says that she wanted to overdose but didn't because someone was there with her.
I'm really worried about my friend how can I help her out? Sorry if this is a bit long.
3 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
What You Can Do
Ask
If you have a friend who is talking about suicide or showing other warning signs, don't wait to see if he or she starts to feel better. Talk about it. Most of the time, people who are considering suicide are willing to discuss it if someone asks them out of concern and care.
Some people (both teens and adults) are reluctant to ask teens if they have been thinking about suicide or hurting themselves. That's because they're afraid that, by asking, they may plant the idea of suicide. This is not true. It is always a good thing to ask.
Starting the conversation with someone you think may be considering suicide helps in many ways. First, it allows you to get help for the person. Second, just talking about it may help the person to feel less alone, less isolated, and more cared about and understood — the opposite of the feelings that may have led to suicidal thinking to begin with. Third, talking may provide a chance to consider that there may be another solution.
Asking someone if he or she is having thoughts about suicide can be difficult. Sometimes it helps to let your friend know why you are asking. For instance, you might say, "I've noticed that you've been talking a lot about wanting to be dead. Have you been having thoughts about trying to kill yourself?"
Listen
Listen to your friend without judging and offer reassurance that you're there and you care. If you think your friend is in immediate danger, stay close — make sure he or she isn't left alone.
Tell
Even if you're sworn to secrecy and you feel like you'll be betraying your friend if you tell, you should still seek help. Share your concerns with an adult you trust as soon as possible. If necessary, you can also call a local emergency number (911) or the toll-free number for a suicide crisis line (you can find local suicide crisis numbers listed in your phone book).
The important thing is to notify a responsible adult. Although it may be tempting to try to help your friend on your own, it's always safest to get help.
- 1 decade ago
When people feel depressed it would be good for them to feel someone close. So, why aren't you with her???
- 1 decade ago
take her to a trusted adult, its for the best. Or take her to a therapist. Don't let her do some stupid sh*t