Why do women always date jerks?

✿¤·ஐ I'm this person you are describing. I admit it opening.

When my boyfriend gets mad, normally he takes it out on my verbally. His parents talk about me like dirt, and he sits there and allows them. He acts EXTREMELY immature for his age, and I find I can never have a decent conversation with him.

My excuse. I love him, and I know he loves me. I ended it on Saturday, and stuck to it. I told him how unfair it was how he treats me, and how I can't stand most of the things he does. He begged me to not do this cause he would change and do anything to be with me. It was actually kind of sweet. This happens all the time. I always take him back. And yeah, it might be the wrong move, but its my choose. Every time this happens, I find mentally I get stronger with being capable of moving on.

Its hard to really explain. He doesn't hurt me, he just has anger issues and needs to grow up.

I do understand where you're coming from though. I loved your point with the "It just means he likes you." Very good and strong argument. If you're in school or something, please write an essay about this, and use that. It really does make a clear strong point. ✿¤·ஐ

Ok! hear is the deal, we like the forbidden fruit. What we can't or shouldn't have sounds tastier than the food we get every day. When we get that bad boy we feel like have achieved mission impossible and we are on top of the world, we think that that now that we have achieved this we can achieve anything and with this great feeling we decide that we are going to change him. Of course he doesn't change and we get our hearts broken. And that is why girls love jerks. As for getting your female friend to notice you, I could help you with that too. Your female friend takes you for granted because you are always there for her. Now I want you to distance yourself from her (don't worry ! it is just temporary).Whether you take a trip away from her or use the pretext that you are busy, you need to not always be around her. When you are gone she will realise that she misses you and realise what you mean to her. Then when you come back it is necessary that you get out of your shell and tell her how much you missed her, this will encourage her to reveal any true feelings that she may posess. You have to give her hints that you want to be more than friends, Remember her answer will always be no if you don't ask her. Good luck

I believe that it's just what you said. We are all taught so young that if a boy is mean to you then he has a crush on you. And I think that even if we don't realize it, subconsciously we always carry that with us. Great question by the way. :)

I don't understand it either. It seems like all the guys who are @$$holes to women, always have a girlfriend, and it takes the nice, sincere men years to find a girl who would even think about dating them.

sounds stupid but nice guys can seem 'boring'

I didn't bother reading anything past the main question. Women are genetically attracted to jerks because they act like a dominant male. It's nature's way of telling you he will be a good provider. That's just the attraction part. Marriage is a whole other story.

It's low self-esteem. Women who go for guys who mistreat them, physically, emotionally, or otherwise, do it because they believe that they don't deserve better.

I fully agree with you. It totally makes sense once you think about it. We need to loose that mentality!

wow i like never would have connected the dots it so makes sense now though. wow you're smart to think of that.

Interesting theory, I've never thought of it that way before...