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Anonymous asked in Social SciencePsychology · 1 decade ago

Is it remotely possible that this girl might like me? Or is my imagination getting the best of me?

Yesterday, I had my first class for this subject that I had taken, I sat in this column of seats in which I was the only occupant. It's an extremely uncomfortable column to sit in as it is just next to the window and it tends to get extremely sunny. This one girl (waaaay out of my league IMO) just sat right behind me today, when she was sitting at the other end of the class with her friends yesterday...

1- is it possible that she does like me?

2- I have been unsuccessful in other such attempts to get sorta intimate with a girl (no, not intimate as in physically intimate), is there anything I should not do specifically do turn a person off? I just try to carry on normal conversations with such potential crushes but I keep messing up or I end up turning the girl off for some reason... I just wrote this as a way to get it off my chest, so if it seems illogical that I write this much to confirm an obscure hunch of mine, I apologize...

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Well... Was there an open seat over by where her friends were sitting? Did she try to talk to you at all? Did her friends keep looking over at you and maybe giggle a little bit? Are you cute? Has she done anything else to suggest she may have a thing for you? If the answer is yes to any of these questions, then there is a chance she might be attracted to you and is possibly trying to get your attention.

    And as far as communicating with her, don't try to throw your intellect in her face to show off. She may take it as you trying to make her feel inferior. It is good that you are trying to carry on a normal conversation... Try not to divulge the fact you are suspicious about her intentions. Make an attempt to just be a good friend, then you can get into a comfort zone and then maybe take it from there. Learn about her so you may know what to expect from a relationship if there ever is one. It may be a lot less stressful for you start out in this fashion, without jumping to a conclusion and messing it up for yourself. It is easier to act in this sort of position and will help you feel more at ease around her.

    Good luck!

  • 1 decade ago

    The 'is it possible that this girl likes me' attitude will obviously not get you very far. When there may be chance that she likes you, rather than letting it go as goes, you are searching for a definite answer far too quickly. Do you find it so unlikely that she would like you that you must either doubt it, as you seem to be doing to some extent, or be sure that she likes you, to avoid having to wonder? Get to know her first, and then you can get a better feeling as to whether or not she likes you. Get close to her, and if it seems she really does like you, then great. Or maybe just take your time, and if she does not seem extremely interested, get her there! See if you can charm her, ask her to go do something, take it slow. If it seems possible, go from there.

    And maybe she's just a nice girl and couldn't bear to see you all alone. Perhaps she'll just be a good friend. You are jumping, or attempting to jump, to conclusions far too quickly. RELAX. And one thing I must point out is that you will get NOWHERE when you just as well as write yourself off immediately, saying she is 'waaaay out of your league.' Does that attitude help? Hell no. I've found that when I have a positive attitude, I do best. At least keep a neutral attitude.

    And don't be so concerned over 'messing up' with crushes. It sounds like you are negating yourself. Stop concerning over it, and you will stop 'messing up.' Maybe because you aren't messing up like you think, and you are so self-aware that you are thinking you are messing up. Or just as likely, maybe you make yourself so tense that you are prone to 'mess up.' Remember that you are equal to whomever you see. 'Leagues' do not really exist. Leagues contain those who believe they are good enough and those who doubt themselves to where they have no chance. Give yourself a chance. You are not the only one who is human and actually has some self-doubt occasionally. Remember that above everything. I think if you stay confident and relax, and don't concern yourself immediately over whether or not every hot girl you see likes you or if you are 'in her league,' then you will be perfectly fine. Be yourself, and be confident in the person you really are. Good luck!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    dude just start talking to her normally. Talk about the class or ask her for help on an assignment. As long as you dont weird her out and you can hold a conversation with her things should be ok. After time goes by and you guys continue to talk just ask her out to the movies or something.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    1- it's definetly possible that she's into you, but there isn't enough info.

    2- i'd say get to know a girl first, see what she likes. EX- if she hates sexual jokes, and you try to crack one befor you knew what she likes, major turn off!!! you always have to get to know her a little befor you try to get intimate. so try this and good luck ^.^

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    i dont know man

    but people sometimes like other people even when the person hasnt done anything to make the other person like them

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