If a chiald at 12 is making out in school and smoking and going to friends to drink...?

Are you kiddin me?No. It would be abuse to NOT whip their azz for that. That is frickin ridiculous. She belongs in boot camp.

Are you kidding the parent should be spanked for not doing it at a younger age... i know that my little girl is only two but she WILL NOT behave that way. No it is not abuse. think about it logically would you rather see that "child" (in quotes because they apparently think they are grown enough to make those decisions) be punished by the legal system or they're parent? once they get they're names in the courts it will only get worse... most of the people in jail today are repeat offenders. it is a deep rut to get stuck in and as we all know it is ten times harder to climb out then it is to just find a different path. "IF" My little girl ever thinks that she is going to act grown she will know that she will have grown up responsibility to go with that privilege she may think that she is ready for...

whats the rush... someone needs to explain that you only want to get older until your there then you only wish that you could undo it.

That Child doesn't need DSS they need a role model and a friend you will be able to do them a hundred times better that way. they need to feel respected but also be informed on what the paths they take are going to have ahead for them.

The DSS does not need to waste thier time on petty things when there are children really being missused and mistreated... the ones that are starved, or beat repeatedly, bruttally. caged children, children involved in rape, or neglected. they need to be called for children with medical disabilities and arent getting the attention they need. the DSS is for the children that get hurt and no medical attention, or are ill and noone seeks help, (not a cold, thats different). the DSS should be contacted if it gets worse, a black eye, busted lip, broken bone... but remember that parents are people too and if you have children you know that teen age children will push and push and push untill you reach your breaking point... The power/independance Struggle. We have all been there at least once in our lives.

Any time a parent uses something (a belt in this case) to beat a child, it is bordering on abuse. If she is making out, smoking and drinking and she is only 12, then you should call DSS - not just because of the spanking, but because it seems there are major problems in this kid's life. The family needs help.

The child is acting out due to a lack of supervision, love, and attention that the parent should be giving. Spanking of any sort should be reported. Some people believe in it, but I don't. I think it is unacceptable. The shame and humiliation as a result of being spanked can last for years. People who are spanked grow up to abuse others and their children as well. It's a vicious cycle. I say report it.

It sounds like this child is getting some mixed signals. Beating her won't help. Especially when her mother allows all this. Which is wrong too. And drinking at 12 maybe she needs to see a psychologist or someone who can help. It sounds like this may be a mental/emotional disorder.

YES please report it. At 12, the things she is doing can be a way to get attention from her parents. It seems the only attention she is getting from them is bad or NONE.

PLEASE help this child, her life is going in the wrong direction...get her help.

Good Luck

Momma P

i would understand a 16 yr old but a 12 yr old??

Beating them isn't going to make them stop. Send them to an all Boy or al girls school

well, its not your business but many parents have different forms of discipline.

It is against the law.