Why do people care about age so much!?

girls mature faster than boys, so i think you're probably about on the same level..the problem is, when he turns 18 he could get into trouble for being with you....don't let your friend's opinions influence the way you feel about him

Here's the thing.

Like others are saying, age matters less the older you get. But when you are young, it just seems like a bigger gap.

Like can you imagine being a first grader and liking a fifth grader?

Or a fifth grader liking a first grader?

So you're fourteen, making you either an eighth grader or a freshman, and him either a junior or a senior. If you are an eighth grader and he's a senior, what makes that so "horrible" is that you're not even in the same level of education, nor will you ever be.

If you are a freshman in high school, and he is either a junior or a senior, it's not so bad.

But the thing is, is that people automatically assume (not always but often) that just because the other person is older it means that they have more experience sexually.

People might assume that you like the person (and again, not always) that you are in it just to be in that more advanced stage.

Meaning sex, to put it bluntly.

I am 16 (junior) and my boyfriend is 20. We've been together for about 7 months.

We met when I was a freshman and he was a senior.

And I started liking him around the beginning of my sophomore year, even though we only talked through email.

I think actually being in a relationship became more possible after I got a little bit older, but I still get those looks when people find out how old my boyfriend is.

They automatically are thinking sex.

We have never gotten anywhere CLOSE.

It's just what people think comes with age, I think.

It is frustrating, but at the same time, you have to be able to understand what people are thinking.

IE: "Jailbait"

And for you, it's not weird to LIKE a 17 year old, but it would be strange to be in a relationship with one.

Doesn't mean it's not right.

To me it means you have a more mature outlook on relationships.

My boyfriend said at first, he was just a little wary.

He told his friends "she's a really cool girl, but she's only sixteen."

Just know that if you DO like this older guy, and are thinking of pursuing a relationship with him, it will be somewhere in his mind no matter what.

Even if he doesn't think it's a problem, he could be worried about what people will think about him.

Or, he could even be worried about what people will think about you.

He may know that people might see you as easy or something like that.

I say, don't let it stop you.

But do be careful, because even if it's wrong, people will keep thinking what they think.

Age differences become less of an issue the older you get. Emotionally and developmentally there is much less difference between 35 and 32 than there is between 17 and 14, when you are still exploring your interests and learning about yourself. That is why the odds are heavily stacked against lasting relationships when there is a large age discrepancy at your age.

That doesn't mean it is wrong to like someone a few years older, but be aware that where the two of you are emotionally is likely to change dramatically by the time you're his age.

For example: I dont think theres anything with a three yrs. age diffrence....but then again if it was a 10 yr age diffrence than ppl would say he's taking advantage of you...which could very well be true young girl not expirenced in life or "sex" could very well be abused by an older more experienced older man which im sure you would agree that is wrong. Age is not only a number but essentually the number of yrs you have on this earth and more yrs on this earth not only give you more common sense but let you read ppl more easliy. be careful.

Age definitely won't be an issue when the two of you are of legal age, yes its just a number but with the laws set out that's what we must all abide by, when he turns 18 he's considered an adult, you're still a minor & it could be considered rape. Especially if you turned around & accused him of it later on down the road because you didn't like him anymore or something like that. When you're 18 & he's 21 then there won't be a problem, but he's going to turn 18 way before you do which makes him an adult.

well i dont know about everyone else but i was alot different at 14 then at 17. physically emotionally and mentally.

theres nothing wrong with liking any one older then you. at 14 you really dont need to be dating exclusively. go out with a group of friends guys and girls!

besides in an adults eyes a 17 year old who would consider dating a 14 year old is wrong and kind of creepy

age is just a number when you are an adult! theres little difference between 24 and 27 but alot of difference between 14 and 17...

Well, yeah, it maybe 3 yrs apart,altho, you're still younger in age. Dating someone of higher classmenship and maturity can get awkward. Yet, I have heard that older guys are more responsible...do not know about loving but yeah. Hold off the dating first. As long as u like him, it's completely normal! =) Just don't take it 2 seriously. Good luck.

after your 18 the three years won't matter but the three years between 14 and 17 is a HUGE difference people do a TON of changing between those ages. That would not be a wise choice.

People just think of it like a maturity thing.

I like this guy who's 18 and I'm 15.

And, he's a senior I'm a sophomore.

People think that its such a huge deal, but really its not.

Ask your parents how much age difference they are.

Mine are 5 years!!!

But, if you really like the person, the only thing that should matter is their personality, not their appearance or age.

Well i have a Boyfrined hes one year yonger people found out at my school, (1800 half of them didnt care) and the ones that did made it sound wrong, for me dating a YONGER boy, its not bad, it matters on ur ages kind of, i mean if you where 17 adn u where dating a 12 year old or something its like uhm ew. but i dont know, girls go for older guys why cant girls go for a few years yonger boys... it doesnt matter to me.. love is love doesnt matter what age you are....

I think its fine i believe that being adults and able to make our own decisions should matter enough and we should be allowed to date whomever we want. In you case i think its normal and 3 yrs are you kidding me thats fine- gosh it is only three years difference and is hardly anything infact you'll are suited for each other. But concering age differences there are boundaries i mean 3yrs or even 9-10yrs is okay but a bigger difference is not right because in those cases people are not compatible with each other because as you age you become more experienced so for that matter its wrong but for a few years difference its perfectly fine.