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why does my ex think i cheated?
ok my girlfriend broke up with me 9months ago quite suddenly out of the blue. we were very much in love and things were going well. i couldn't work out why, she just said she wasn't happy so i eventually accepted it as maybe just she wasnt as into me as i thought.
we stayed friends and kept in contact, quite randomly she actually lived with me for a month while she had no-where to live and look for a new flat. we continued to get on well but nothing happened.
she then moved out and we would occasionally contact....then suddenly she deleted me from her facebook friends. after a while she added then deleted. after adding again she put an angry note on my page which was directed quite blatantly at one of my friends.
then i get a text saying 'you cheated on me, i know it'. after a lot of probing i find out she thought i cheated on her last year. what actually happened was my cousin was getting married and had the stag do in sweden. when the best man was organising the nite out i told him i had an old friend who used to live in london who was swedish who would know the best places to go. so i got back in contact with her to get details. after that she put msgs on my page such as 'miss u!!' and 'would be good to see you' as she left london bout 4 yrs ago and we were catching up.
anyway my ex thought i went to sweden on the do, metup with this girl and cheated despite the fact i told her she doesn't even live in sweden anymore, plus there was no way i would do anything like that to her. she is convinced
anyway a few weeks ago her dad fell ill and we were talking, she texted me she misses me and wished what we had was the best and she wished it never finished when it did
i want to know a) what should i do about this, i love her but am really unhappy she did not trust me or believe me
b) valentines is coming up, i was thinkin about sending her a message or card plus its her birthday soon
c) do you think she would want to get back with me
i dont know why she didnt tell me all this when we broke up and left me so confused when she ended it
i've already explained what happened to her what i've written here so she knows
9 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Looks like she still likes you, but the fact that she thinks you cheated on her is keeping her away from you.
Have a frank discussion with her..tell her you DID NOT cheat on her. If she can't believe it then don't try getting back together with her, because this would always be on her mind, and in a moment of weakness she might decide to get back together with you, but there would be no trust in your relationship.
- 1 decade ago
Okay.. when she sent that msg, it meant that shes looking for hope..
No matter what yuve done, she was supposed to consult you, like when the wrong was yurs now its hers, cuz apparently yu didnt cheat on her, and she didnt trust you.
So just ask her to meet up, tell her its imp, before valentines, and tell her the story as if yur just saying it to make stuff clear nothing like yu wanna get back.. after yu realize she heard all the story, and yu clearified all yu got,
Be like
"but yu know, now i cant belive that yu didnt tell me this earlier, and yu made all we had go to waste, and above all yu didnt trust me"
So now even if shes right, she'l be at the weak point.
And then let her explain, after that if she seems like she wants to make stuff better.
Ask her in a ridiculous way... " welll .. errrmm, yu wanna be my valentine? "
It depends on the answer if it might go on or not.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
What you have got to ask yourself first is "Do you want to get back with her?"
If you do then you really need to sit down with her in a neutral place, say a public park. The discuss what has happened and how she needs to talk to you about what is going on in her head.
The past is the past but sometimes people find it very difficult to move on.
Ja.
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- 1 decade ago
She is doin it cos she did it to u and is insucure about her self and is takin out on u so the best thing u could do is leave her be and move on with your life
- 1 decade ago
a=girls are fickle most of us get scared in a relationship and flip out over small things
b= send her a card or some flowers (NOT ROSES UNLESS U REALLY LIKE HER)
c= depends how you act, dont go on about past things ok and if she brings it up dont get mad or act annoing.
- 1 decade ago
a. talk to her about it. you should understand why it was hard for her to trust you. women tend to think that if there is another girl involved, something could easily happen. she didnt want to lose you and putting herself through that must have made her feel vulnerable. feeling hurt that's why she probably didnt believe you
b. i guess; do you really want to get back with her? idk if its such a good idea. maybe something a long the line should be that it would be best if you told her how much you care for her. show her you still care
c. idk, she might still have feelings for you, but because she did get hurt (even though you didn't intentionally mean to hurt her) she probably doesnt.
however these are just my opinions.
good luck<3
BTW PLEASE HELP ME, IM DESPERATE:
- 1 decade ago
dude, the way i see it. move on. she had her chance and she blew it. if you guys get back together it will always come up ( the sweden thing ), trust me.
l8ers
- Anonymous1 decade ago
because you are you **** ahhh, you should be burned at the stake but that is a bit harsh i admit so perhaps just decapitated.
