A question for people who answered my Valentine's day question? (and an extra one for everyone else?)?

Long distance romance

You start to say your goodbyes and you feel the lump in your throat grow larger. Your stomach is in a knot. Who knew that when you met in camp or on vacation...or last year when graduation felt like it was years away...that this wretched day would come. The fact that you won't see him for months is tearing you up inside. When you wake up tomorrow she'll be hundreds, maybe thousands of miles away. Welcome to the world of long distance romance.

When the time comes to bid farewell to your girlfriend, it's not surprising you feel nowhere near ready. Just because she's far away, doesn't mean you're not thinking about her all the time, wanting to talk to her, wanting to see him. Because you care deeply about each other and feel sincerely committed, you resolve to try and make it work. In this day and age, communicating is a cinch, you think. Instant Messaging, E-mail, cheap airfares, phone cards--if you really make an effort, maybe staying in touch won't be so hard.

If you think about people you know, you'll realize that some long-distance relationships do really work. Some couples date in high school, go to separate colleges and then end up together. Some couples meet in a summer resort and start dating, but visit each other frequently throughout the year and manage to keep it together.

So what is the secret to staying together? Although there's no guaranteed answer, here's some stuff to think about if you're deciding whether to give it a go.

Be realistic about your feelings for him and vice versa

How strong is your connection? For most guys, a strong relationship base is important. How long have you been dating? How close do you feel to one another? Are you equally involved in the relationship? Try to look beyond what he's saying and pay attention tot how he's acting, leading up to when you're going to part...does he talk about the future, about when you're going to see each other again, or does he just mention it here and there?

Is your long distance relationship fact or fantasy? How often do you contact each other? Does he call you as much as you call him? Who initiates the e-mails, you or him? Some guys are honest about cutting off a relationship if they start feeling distant, or if they want to start dating someone else. But some guys are NOT. So you have to be prepared that what you're imagining him doing-for example, sitting home on a Friday night mooning over you--may not actually be what's happening.

Facing the challenge, anticipating the obstacles

The pain of saying goodbye: The first time you say goodbye to your girlfriend is only the first of many...be prepared to relive the ordeal every time you visit each other.For example these people: Beth, who only saw her boyfriend every other weekend because he lived a few hours away, would cry every time after he left. Jenna saw her boyfriend every couple of months, and when he left, it took her a few days to stop feeling sad. Long distance relationships can be emotionally draining, so you must decide if you're up for the heartache.

The importance of seeing each other as often as possible: Phone or e-mail can keep you connected, but seeing each other's face means oh so much more, especially for boys. For most guys, closeness comes from shared experiences. For girls, intimacy comes from conversation. When you're talking on the phone, you may feel close, but unfortunately, it's another one of those Mars/Venus deals. With some young men, out of sight means out of mind.

Make sure you're clear on the terms of your relationship: Are you fully committed and exclusive? Are you still together but are seeing other people? Are you going to tell each other if you're seeing someone else? Talking this out beforehand will make it easier to handle the situation if it arises later on.

Finally, make sure you don't start living the life of a hermit when he's not around. Is your relationship making you miss opportunities, social or otherwise? Do you not go to that party and just stay home and watch T.V because, hey, your friends are just going to meet girls and you've already got a guy? If your friends are going to the movies on Saturday, do you stay around, just in case he calls? Don't stop your life because you've got a girlfriend. Whether or not it works out with the two of you, being miserable will never increase your shot at happiness.

No relationship is easy, even if your boyfriend lives next door! Go with your gut. If you feel this relationship is strong enough to handle the burdens imposed by being apart, then try to make it work. But make sure to be realistic. Only honesty, combined with your love and commitment to each other, will bring you the healthy relationship you deserve, no matter how many miles separate you.

Hoped This Helped Good Luck!!!!!!!

Well, it was an idea from the flower industry when business was going bad. So it is definitely a money making scheme. So I never really cared about Valentines Day. Neither does my partner. Did you all know that Santa Claus, or at least the way he looks, is an invention from Coca Cola?

Sorry to be mean but dude it seems like someone else is in the picture.Nobody should make you feel like sht,if she makes you feel like that then roll on.If you couldn't tell by her not showing up then what other advice do you need?Getting her hair and nails done?I think she was on another date.What do you think?3-720 that's alot of empty time.

Its really hard with relationships. If u could only see her on saturdays. Call her on Friday and make sure that she has no plans on Saturday so u could hang out with her and ask her we she works and maybe bring her so food or at least flowers cause us girls we love flowers so much. And when she has a lunch break go with her so u guys could talk.

You know you posted this RHH right?

Well I don't really have any advice man, but I have a few people on my contacts that might. Good luck.

sorry to say this but i agree with candleguy. but i can be wrong, but my advice for you is to watch out carefully. i mean it doesnt take that long to get your hair and nails done b/c she had all day saturday to do it,

lmao

leave her alone. obviously she doesnt want you.