After 20 years of marriage i find my husband is cheating on me?

Cook his breakfast like a good wife.

(Trip understands this may be a somewhat inflammatory answer, so happily offers the alternative solution of sleep with his best friend)

Consistently choosing to behave in a way that you knew would hurt your husband for FIVE years is not a mistake - you willfully chose to do something you knew was wrong. The very first thing you need to do is to own up to the fact that this is YOUR fault. Stop playing some little helpless victim. You didn't accidentally have sex with someone repeatedly for five years. You weren't "tricked" into carrying on an affair. It's YOUR fault that you betrayed your husband. Honestly, I don't think you're sorry for your actions - I think you're just sorry that you got caught. You only feel guilty because you're afraid of facing the consequences. You obviously weren't sorry enough to stop the affair for the entire five years it was going on. In my opinion, your marriage is probably doomed. With this kind of blatant selfishness and refusal to take responsibility for your own actions, the chances that you'll ever treat your husband like he deserves to be treated are slim to none.

Please be at peace.... You have found someone to take you serious.!!!

How old are you both??? Cheating is NOT cool... I'm SOOOO sorry that you have found out, but it's for the better! A cheater is a cheater and you deserve better. Life is short... VERY short.... TRUST me .... I know...!!!

Are you married? If so, divorce his azz tomorrow. Nobody is worth that. I know you probably love him, but if the can do that to you it's not worth it honey! You both just grew apart. It happens..... it wasn't true love! Now you know...!!! There is a whole life out there for you to grasp!!! Forget him!!! After 20 yrs. I can't imagine how pissed off you are! I can only imagine! Life is sooooo short! I can't offer you peace or happiness but I can tell you this.....

Just move on!!!! He isn't worth it! I once paid for my girlfriend to go to cancun, mexico with me and the day of the flight she backed out. She played me!!! It's just the way humans work.!!! It sucks... I know!!!

But, honey... after 20 yrs. you made need just a talk with him! Honestly, though.... if you cheat once.... I would just move on!!!

More than likely he is just bored in bed! I hate to say it, but coming from a guy that in usually the case. I know it's not a reason, but things happen!!! Talk to him and find out, but if it's 20 yrs I think he is just bored in bed and wants something new.

Good luck to you both!!!

Tell him a friend of yours found out her husband is cheating on her and carry on high about what you would do, there are some wonderful suggestions here,lol. Stare at him for awhile then walk away. Walk around real quiet for days so he can worry about what you're going to do. Then kick his asp out

Leave that dude, I don't understand why having one woman isn't enough for guys. You only have on D1ck not two.

Depending how far this affair has gone depends on what you should do. If he had sex wih someone else, sue him for any STD you may get(I think a woman in Cali got away with that.)

After seeing what Ashley had to say I got nothing except for don't mess with her.

Put a teaspoon in a cup of boiling water for a few minutes ... then, while he is sleeping, take said teaspoon out of boiling water and hold it on one of his knackers for a couple of seconds.

That should get the point across ...

Divorce!

you could post an add in the local newspapers offering him up for sale. Mention something about his need for viagra. saying it includes all his dirty laundry. Those are always fun to read. lol

wow. i feel bad for you. i think replacing his soap with Nair is a good idea. salt in his coffee. that kind of thing. an accidental jolt with a stun gun is always fun. shaving cream in his shoes. the list is endless. repetition is the key.