Not wanting sex after baby?

I wish I had the answer, but I can at least tell you you're not alone. My daughter is also 5 months. I hate the thought of sex. It turns my stomach to think about it. My breasts are my daughter's, not his. I hate to be touched or even have sexual comments made by my DH, as I feel gross! Fat, tired and totally unsexy. My Dr. told me it's hormones. Not much help, sorry, but if you get the answer, let all us girls know- LOL

I have been feeling the same way. I am only 4 weeks post though but I still can't imagine having sex again if that makes sense. I feel fat ugly and find myself afraid that it will never feel the same. Your husband loves you just the way you are 20lbs and stretch marks. As women we are so hard on ourselves and men don't even think twice about this kind of stuff. I would maybe try working out a little and maybe that will raise your spirits and help you overcome your body issues. But I just wanted to tell you I feel how you are feeling. Here is a website that made me feel better about my body after baby if you want to check it out it is really humbling to know your not the only one:-)

http://theshapeofamother.com/

First off, you should know that this is very common. Lots of us go through this, and get past it.

When "pleasure" body parts suddenly serve a practical purpose it can be hard to jump back into a sexual role. That, on top of the body changes and the role of being a new parent can put a major kink in the sex dept.

Hopefully, like with most of us, this will pass as you start to feel more like you again. But in the mean time TRY not to view it as a job. Find ways to get yourself "in the mood". If massages help, ask your hubby for one. I used to have my husband kiss my back.. I know it seems silly, but it was the one spot I could enjoy being touched (before I was in the mood) with my mind and neg feelings not ttaking over. If you just tell your hubby that "this will help me get in the mood" I'm sure he'll be willing to do whatever it takes!

Good luck!

Have someone close watch the baby or the night && spend time with your husband. Make it romantic! Candle light sex is always good for women who are self conscious about themselves...and much better than just having all the lights off! You gave birth to your husbands child, I'm sure he loves you very much and still sees you as beautiful, if not more now having gone through the miracle of creating a life together!

Best of luck && God Bless.!.

Well, if you're having a hard time like so many couples have had going through this similar experience, I think you should see a sex therapist. They can help you put things into perspective and help you turn all your negative thoughts upside down. By the way, you just had a baby. How "sexy" are you honestly supposed to feel? Then again, in many ancient cultures women weren't seen as full sexual creatures until they had children. Think about it.

I am pretty much in the same boat as you. Only my little girl is only three months. I am still about 20 lbs heavier and I just don't feel at all sexy. I imagine it will eventually go away, but I do know how you feel.