Is my boyfriend seeing her?

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My boyfriend of three years cheated on me a few months ago. (I'm 22, he is 28) We are attempting to try to repair the damage done and to see if we can still have a relationship. Sense then, in efforts to make amends, he has given men hundreds of dollars to help pay for my bills from all of his paychecks (as I have just graduated university), is continuously buying me gifts, is more affectionate and loving than ever, doesn't have a problem talking with me when I want to talk about what he did, my feelings, allows me to look through his phone, wallet, house, and email (something I never did because I respected his privacy), and much more. Out of my paranoia, I search through various sites he and she are on to see if anything suspicious might be going on (a trait which I never had in the past. I was very trusting.) On one of his gaming sites, I see that he has become friends with a girl that has the same name as her (there is no picture) and they have been friends for one week. Instantly, I call him and ask him what's going on and he said when people add him as a friend on that site, he doesn't pay much attention to who it is. He said that is he's making such an effort to keep me, why would he blow it all now? What should I believe?

CCS · Answer

if he lets you go through everything then i don't think he's seeing anyone else because well duh you would find out eventually. but him letting you go through everything isn't a good thing for you either. because you see everything the littlest things will make you think he's cheating on you because to you it seems too good to be true especially after something like that. Before you pick a fight with him RETHINK what your getting mad at. the girl on the site has the same name... same last and first name? or just first name? is that a common name? etc. don't jump to conclusions remember him letting you go through all his things is suppose to HELP you get over your guys trust issues not make it worse. and if then you can't get over it then you guys should move on. trust and respect is an important thing in a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

my boyfriend of 3 years also cheated on me, but he did it in the very beginning, and he stopped now

if he's really doing it this late into the relationship, thats a sure fire sign that he's not mature or ready to actually settle down and be happy with you

i dont mean to upset you, but if he's STILL cheating at age 28, then theres a high chance hes gonna keep doing it again

he probably really loves you and wants to keep you for that reason

but boys will be boys and they always want as much as they can have


if he does it again, leave him, dont keep feeding the habit

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