How do I get over him?

oh baby girl!

You sound exactly like a friend that i have.

Life's to short to wast it on time sentimentalized over something.

You probably feel the way you do because he was a big piece of your life and makes up a piece of who you are today. It's hard to spend a big piece of your life with someone and then try and forget about it. Sex can also be a very emotionally connecting thing where a part of your heart is changes forever.

Maybe that's why you think about him.

Learn to love yourself. I would now tell you to try and become friends with this ex and maybe go out for coffee but seeing as how he's a bit of a jerk i suggest you leave it behind you. Live in the moment. No regrets. Your new life starts today!!! :)

Focus on the parts of you and you love. Not the parts of you others love or dislike.

Your better than good enough honey<3

He was your first love, and the first person you had a sexual relationship with, I know SO many people who have this, and that person generally treats them the worst out of all their bf/gf's and they are that on going attachment that doesn't ever seem to leave.

Don't let yourself look at his myspace anymore.

completely ignore him.

You may be right about you wanting that reassurance that you look better now because it would have really hurt (especially as you were in high school)

but he was obviously a dick head and just some young stupid boy, so just accept what he said in the past, and that it was all that time ago and that he was just some ignorant guy you were with once, whos opinion means nothing now, sure its easier said than done. but once you learn to accept and love yourself(you might already but that loving you needed back in high school) you will feel better about it, and not feel the need to talk to him, etc.

you loved him, he was your first, you'll always think about him, and prob'ly always love him a little. that's ok. it will be less and less. not gonna forget your first in a few years. But you sound smart; he made you feel terrible, so you aren't with him anymore. good for you. obviously you don't need him to tell you you look better, you know that. And sounds to me like HE's not good enough for YOU. Think you know that too. Also sounds like you found someone that lets you feel good about yourself. Quit going to his myspace, but if you do, or when you think about him, don't think it's bad to do that. just let it remind you how you feel better without him, how you look better without him, how you are better without him, and then it's ok to think about him from time to time. then think about something that makes you feel good about you.

ive been trying to hang out with friends and focus in my school....but yeah you know sometimes i get kinda sad and i start missing him and then ill start crying....i recently had a breakup 2 so i know how you feel. my ex did me sooo wroong im not even kidding i got so depressed and now i think im becoming obsessed its not even funny...i dont wanna miss him and i try so hard to do other things but everywhere i go everything i see reminds me of him and i cant forget those good moments we had together..* sigh*

can you please answer my question ? ( has to do with my ex, i really need help) dont know what to do.....

go to my profile under my questions the first one that says

"HElP!!!!advice....."

i would gladly appreciate it

thanx :)

no offense, but this guy sounds like a jerk, you should have gotten over him in a heartbeat, but you didn't, you gotta talk to him and get some closure, meanwhile, you've got an amazing boyfriend rite now, you've gotta forget about the past and focus on the present

How can you still claim to love someone that treated you badly? That is sad first of all. How can you pine for someone that you admit would hurt you?

its hard to get over something like that.....i know....if u have the need to tell him something...then tell him......dont bottle it up.....i felt miserable when i didnt talk to my ex because i had so much to say.....then i finally did and everything worked out.....i just moved on.....dont feel like u have to be good enough for him....i dont know u....but im sure u are good enough for anyone....maybe he still lurks in ur mind because of how u guys broke up.....only u know why......just do whatever u feel u have to do.....do something, not nothing....good luck....

P.S..........Love is complicated....

Go to the gym and lose weight then.