went out with 2 male friends last nite - got very drunk and went home with one - feelin terrible today..?

It sounds like you are in the phase after a break up where you are extremely vulnerable and not making clear decisions.....we've all been there. If you ask me the friend you went home with TOTALLY took advantage of the situation. Even had you not had sex with him he should NOT have gotten you undressed even if he was taking care of you while you were drunk! My best GAY friend wouldn't have even done that.....you body is private and he shouldn't have done that without you being coherant to consent.....it's embarassing which I'm sure you know.

Talk to BOTH of your friends about it. Be honest with both of them but especially with the guy you are interested in. I would tell him (your friend you are interested in) that it was a drunken mistake and you are very vulnerable right now. Try not to get too emotionally involved with anyone right now....after a long term relationship has ended you aren't able to clearly make decisions about romance. Personally, I didn't get into a serious relationship after I divorced my ex (we were together for 5 years also) until 2 years after my divorce.....that's not to say that is how long you should wait that was just what was right for me.

When you are in such a long term relationship you adapte and change. Once it ends you need to figure out things and do thing for yourself. Don't cheat yourself of this time to heal, process, and figure things out.

You probably hurt your chances with the other guy, but i wouldnt say you blew it. You still have a chance if you explain the whole situation to him and everything that happened. If you like him, tell him that and say that you kinda wanna take it slow because you just came out of a different relationship. You really need to slow down on the whole drinking deal, that is terrible for your health and it will make you do things you regret, like in this case.

... In my honest opinion... You sound like you are in a bad place right now. You should try to get to know yourself sober... and maybe find a healthy respect for yourself. Breaking a relationship that has been going on for that long can really mess a person up. So I would say slow down... Relax... find out what is really going on inside of your head and try to become a strong person..

I hope everything works out for you!

i think of all of us do fairly loopy issues as quickly as we are below the effect of alcohol and you need to not torcher your self approximately it, basically look upon it a a drunken mistake and flow on inclusive of your life. this is lots nicer to get a woman who hasn't been with thousands or thousands of guys and needs to do it with you for unfastened cos there fairly into you. in case you started traveling Brothels while your sober or start up making it a habit once you're below the effect of alcohol that yo u could sense grimy and ashamed. do not hardship hon, all of us make errors. Cathy xx xx

the guy who helped you the night you were drunk seems the more considerate type.. give him a chance.. and since you just came out of a long relationship it seems that your choosing the guy who you wouldn't become emotionally attached too..

Alcohol and relationships. A great mix. Did you learn anything? If not why are you asking? If so why are you asking? Pay attention! Listen to yourself!

I think you shoudn't feel guilty because you were drunk. if the other guy you like more knows this happened, subtly say that you regret it because you like "someone" else. If he doesn't knwo, he doesn't need to. It's not like you cheated or anything

wow

umm

i am at a loss for words but pretty sure you blew your chances with the other guy

Stop hitting the bottle so hard that you make such poor choices.

If you want to be a **** , stop trying to use alcohol as a an excuse just be a ****.