im such a bad mum :'(?

That's horrible. You shouldn't even have a child. To clarify, falling asleep isn't whats horrible, accidents happen. But your total disregard for your baby afterwords, instead of taking the baby to the doc to make sure she is OK, your only worried about whether people will find out or not. Accidents will happen, but your neglect after the fact, is child abuse.

If it's your first, why did the hospital send you home....something not right here..... Surely your health visitor would notice the lump, or your follow up midwife....

How would you feel if your partner fell off your chest and he had a lump on his head for 3 weeks ( probably knock some sense into him)

As a single dad of 2 (last 10 years) I've had sleepless nights, feeding/teething/colds/illness, that's what happens when you become a parent...

Get the head checked.... speak to someone.... You need help.

By the way, lose the partner...

Good Luck

Well, that was an unfortunate accident. It's something you will always, always remember. No sense trying to forget it. Just learn something from it and resolve to do better.

First: Your partner should not have left you so soon to go have his cig. You'll need more help from him in the future and you should let him know this now.

Second: You'll need to get along with less sleep for the next several years. Double and triple check EVERYTHING when you're with a baby, because lack of sleep can cause people to not get things right.

Third: Don't sleep with your baby. There have been instances of mothers rolling over on the baby and killing it accidentally. Don't bring the baby into your bed again unless you're really, really wide awake.

Fourth: Your baby will forgive you and you two will laugh about this one day. As she grows up and when she has her first baby, you just plan to be there to help her for a few days.

The lump will eventually go away, probably within a week or so. Don't panic. Just --- don't let it happen again!

Accidents do happen. It's too bad that it did, but you can't change it now. You will just have to go on. It sounds like she's fine. Everybody has a scare story with their baby. That's part of being a parent.

What I am worried about is the smoking... NOBODY should be smoking in the house!!! This increases your babies risk of respiratory disease (asthma), and SIDS... I would be more worried about that.

At bare minimum, the smoker needs to be going outside, and really they should be washing their face and hands, and changing their clothes after smoking because even smoke particles left over on clothes, skin, and hair poses a risk. I realize that this sounds unreasonable, but it's true. What better reason to quit smoking than the safety of your daughter?

Good luck. I hope it all turns out.

Being a new mum is tiring. I had my first girl at 20 and one night she just wouldn't sleep. I took her down stairs and swung her from side to side. I didn't shake her nor loose my patience I just said for gawds sake go to sleep. This was when the Louise Woodward trail was all over the press. I felt guilty for a long time after. Your guilt will eat away at you. See your G.P if not for the sake of your baby but for the sake of your sanity!! Your mum will know if your not telling the truth believe me. Be honest about this. There is no right way to bring up a child. You were tired and had just given birth. Your not the first mum to do this nor the last.

Did you call the doctor and let them know what happened? She could have had a concussion or something like that. That's quite a bit of 'trauma' for a baby that was less than 48 hours old. Especially since, three weeks later, the lump is STILL there. She could have a hematoma. I would be more worried about getting her checked out to make sure that everything is okay rather than trying to hide it. You made a mistake. ALL mothers make mistakes. Accidents happen. That's not what makes you a bad mother. Lying to people about it and not getting her the care that she needs is what could potentially make you a bad mother.

All three of my children have fallen and bumped their heads at one time or another (while they were very young). A simple phone call to the pediatric office to let them know what happened always calmed my nerves. Sure, I was mortified that the accident happened and was ashamed in myself for 'allowing' it to happen, but making sure they were okay was always the top priority.

If it were me, I would call the doctor just to explain what happened. Don't worry, you're not going to get in trouble or anything like that! :) Just be thankful that you heard your baby crying because that way you at least know she was okay. If you would have woke up to her lying on the floor silent, that would have been terrifying. I've heard of this happening before so don't feel like you are the only one out there. You are not a bad mother. I completely understand how exhausted you are due to lack of sleep. Next time, maybe put baby right next to you or in her crib so that you can avoid this in the future.

i think of maximum mothers have days like that. I basically have one son, so i'm able to basically think of having extra advantageous than that. i'm particular it would be very overwhelming at cases. have you ever tried putting your youngest in a sling or some thing like a toddler bjorn? that could help you on those days while she heavily isn't placed down without fussing. i do no longer think of you're making a fuss, you're in simple terms expressing your feeling of exhaustion that many mothers adventure each so often. perchance your husband can watch the youngsters while he gets homestead while you relax for a whilst or maybe he grants you a "day" while he's off so which you will have some actual "me" time. I desire you the main suitable of success and take care.

if you feel very guilty for what had happened, then you are not a bad mum.. just make sure it wont happen again. maybe try to lay in the middle of the bed, so that the baby or even you, wont roll over.

i've been there before-being a new mom and it is hard.

so try and get as much help you could from everyone else. it's important to get a lot of rest to recover and also to be able to enjoy your newborn.

good luck new mommy!

You really shouldn't let this tear you apart. I'm a new mum myself so i understand the complete exhaustion you must be feeling! Have you told anybody about it? I'm sure if you spoke to your mum about it they too would be understanding and i'm sure it would make you feel a bit better about it?! It certainly doesn't make you a bad mother!!! My husband was dropped by his mum when he was a baby and believe it or not its something that they laugh about now! I know it probably seems that you'll never be able to do that at the moment but you really need to put it behind you. Unfortunately you can't start all over again but its early enough to start from now?!

honey, it happens,. u were tired and exhausted. many women dump their kids on the head early on, its no biggy. i hadnt slept for 48 hours after the birth and ended up sitting on the floor crying 'why did i have uuuu!?' but that was hormones and exhaustion. the kid wouldnt let me sleep...so as a mother, u put ur instincts together and do what works. i started putting her in the bed with me...subconsciously i knew she was there. or i would set her swing up and put her in it so she would doze off for me.

one day when she was 5 weeks, she just slid right off the bed onto her head on the edge of a vanity chair.. when she was 3 she went down a flight of stairs, smashed her forehead on the edge of a piano and had the worst lump. now at 6 yrs old she has a small dent where the lump was and she is totally fine lol

ur kid is fine....this isnt the first goose egg she is gonna sport, so just take it easy.