14 year old sister...possibly pregnant!?

I agree with what someone else said, thaty she will come out with no std's and start to think that what she is doing is okay. Then what will you do? Your sister needs serious help before its REALLY too late. Sometimes that goes beyond family help. Maybe you should get her professional help. Of course it may be hard to make her go but at some point you all have to set boundaries between who's the adult and who's the child.

If your baby is due anytime soon, then let her see first hand how hard it can be to raise a child. It may not be as easy to make it look bad since you have the help of your husband. But i think your sis needs to get out of the TV world and see whats really real out in the REAL world. There is WAY too much out there for her to be having unprotected sex so freely.

i think that you are a wonderful older sister for doing this, becuz most would prob not want to have anything to do with this kind of mess, so thanks for doing that!!! next i think that you should def talk to your parents togather with your sis so that she can tell her parents about what has been going on. the std test is also a good idea. it sounds to me like she is way up in the clouds and doesnt realize the bad things that come with sex, so kudos there, and then the talk with the boyfriend. let him know that if he thinks he can get a job, quit school, never see his friends, comfort a pregnant girlfriend and tell his parents, then he is ready for sex. too many kids rush into it thinking its everything and more, but its really not.after that is sorted out, counseling is prob the best idea. my guess is that since she was doing drugs and having sex at a young age is prob becuz she is starved for love even if you and others are giving it to her, becuz she thinks you dont understand her ect. ect.. i know how she is feeling becuz when i was younger i used to cut myself becuz i thought that i needed the pain to feel alive and it was really only hurting me more. i wish that when i was going through i hard time like that that i would have had someone to talk things over with that i could trust.please consider that... good luck to you and your sis (tehe it is st.pats day hehe) and God Bless -Sarah

Straight up? I would notify the authorities about the felonious sexual assault on your little sister.

Your sister has a hard raod ahead of her with the choices she is making now.

An intervention group therapy, FAMILY therapy, and inconveniencing her life with punishment is all that is going to get her to realize how serious it all is.

Once her "boy friend" goes to jail that should wake her up too. And him.

Good Luck.

Intervention is hard, but necessary if you do not want the next positive test to be HIV positive.

its sounds like a fine idea. the only concern i have is that she will turn up not having anything wrong with her and she will believe that what she is doing is ok.. i see it all the time.. i work in the ER and i see young girls as young as 9 come in 9 months pregnant. putting her on the pill is a great idea however, your mother needs to step up and really take control of the situation. shes 14 and not old enough to make big decisions or take care of herself. i do believe she is being giving a fast ride to self destruction. i pray that things get better, however i have seen worse.. keep your head up..

the results should only take 20 min maybe? or they might call with the results. have your husband buy him a pack of condoms, cause would you rather spend $8 or have a baby?

i think that telling your guys' mom would be a good idea so she could get on birth contol and use condoms so this wouldnt happen.

:)

I think the best thing you can do for her is get her tested again and sit down and talk to her

i don't see her really caring about anything. she is too rapped up in her bf, she is not going to listen to you. it is unfortunate but she will probably have to go through most of these lessons herself. so she can learn right from wrong, although it wouldn't hurt to put her in therapy. it doesn't mean your crazy but she can talk about things maybe she can't talk about with her family. you like blow off steam!

a nurse commented what if the test comes back negative, she probably won't learn anything. even if it comes back positive chances are she still not going to learn anything. you have to be very graphic and show lots pictures to her, of what ppl look like before and after they have diseases. take them both her and her bf to talk to some ppl about there diseases what the have to go through on day to day basis.

how old is this boy? if he is 18 i wouldn't throw him in jail if he goes to high school, the boy probably has parents like yours and doesn't learn anything. but be as graphic as possible even if you think you are taking it too far, you have to scare kids now a days.

i don't understand the question about you want her to tell mom... is

this a good idea? what's a good idea?

you could have her tested, i would tell the boy's parents as well so he

can do the same. you may want to see if she has gf's someone she

can hang out with. hobbies she may like or used to like before the

drama started. try to have her get a better out look on life, have her help kids in trouble or have her go to the pound to spend time with

animals (if she likes animals). something for her to get involved with, so it's not just all about her and she can and can't do. so she can feel good about herself that she helped someone. we all feel better about ourselves and have the feeling of self worth, when we help ppl.

she most likely sounds like she has low self esteem issues which most girls do. they look for love in a bf other than making themselves happy. your parents should step it up, but maybe there just lazy or blind to reality. you should tell them about what is going on, do not hide info like this away from your parents. worst case scenerio,

something happens where the po po have to get involved if you know

something it could fire back on you. tell them asap, but make it in a way they will listen.

you also need to show your sis the outcome of ectasy, that's a really bad drug. do some research on that, have to chit chat with some parents that lost there kids over it. that should wake her up, if not she

is seriously in danger. meaning her self esteem is worst then you thought. she probably doesn't care about living or dieing just having fun.

sorry so long, hope this helps. good luck!

i really understand you care about your sister....thats great!!! but if i had you as a sister and a found out you posted all my personal business on the internet...id be soo upset with you....thats not a question you ask strangers to answer, or comment on. she young..and seems to have a really bad life. instead of writing on the internet..you should be that great sister and find her professional hellp...maybe shes just looking for someone to love her in the wrong places!!!

good luck

You are a gem, of an older sister!!!! Anyone should have a sister like you.