I Am Confused About Myself?

Sounds like you are gay to me.

Crap I typed out this whole long anecdotal piece of advice but it got erased.

Anyways to sum it up I'm fairly certain you're gay (although I could be wrong), I struggled with the exact same issue when I was first coming to terms with my sexual orientation. I know women in general tend to be more accepting, nurturing, and compassionate then men so it's easy to distinguish and stereotype both genders. I think you have to realize there are many guys, especially gay guys, out there that can be equally emotionally and mentally stimulating as women, but you probably just haven't found them yet.

I know at that period in my life I felt the exact same way because for starters 1. I was in the closet and 2. I hung out with all straight guys. The majority of adolescent straight men are insecure and are a bit immature. As a result many of them aren't looking from any type of deeply emotional relationship, even with women. I know I made the assumption that the majority of men aren't what I was emotionally attracted to based on the limited perspective I had. However after I came out and as time progressed I found that men (gay or straight) can be just as emotionally engaging as women it's just a matter of finding them.

I'd say you're gay. I have a similar thing - I feel attracted in some way to girls, thinking I like them, but then when I step back and think about it I could never imagine either having sex with them or having a relationship with them. Sometimes you trick your brain into telling you it's thinking what you think it should think... if that makes sense?

One day you'll find the right guy who connects with you emotionally as well as physically. Hope it happens for ya :P

If you're able to have passionate physical relations with one gender but not the other, then I'd suggest you're not bisexual. It's very easy to be attracted to a personality or feature of an individual without really desiring a relationship.

Geo, I went through the exact same thing myself. I always surrounded myself with girls because that's who I was most comfortable talking to. Maybe you are bisexual. I don't know because I personally haven't experienced that. Just take your time figuring it out. Usually if you are sexually attracted to men then you are gay. I think being bisexual means that you are attracted in the same way to both genders. Just don't pressure yourself into making some rash decision. Unfortunately these things just take time to figure out.

...btw this is a friend (guy) using this profile

You aren't the only one with this issue. I've heard various people say the same thing on this forum over the past months.

It puzzles me, though. Don't you know any nice gay guys who are not only cute, but also have beautiful personalities and are emotionally and mentally harmonious with you?

You may have a form of social anxiety disorder that is unrelated to, but affecting, your being gay. And yes, you are gay.

You may be uncomfortable around men socially, so you never really open up to them where you are more comfortable with women and enjoy talking and spending time with them.

You might want to seek some professional advice on how to break this habit and to work out some insecurities you might have with men.

The way I see it, everyone has the potential to fall in love with any gender, based on a person's personality. If s/he has an amazing personality, you will fall in love with him/her. Your sexuality, however, at least in my eyes, is the gender you are PHYSICALLY attracted to. Only you can answer what you really are, but it seems to me that you are straight, you simply find it easier to identify with females.

Look for a man. I don't think you are lesbian or bisexual. It is normal to have feelings for women if you are a woman. And you'll have great female friends. But, I wouldn't waste your time trying out lesbian sex even for the short term if you aren't attracted physically. On the other hand, you probably need a guy who is comfortable with his emotions who isn't gay and who is sure about his heterosexuality. Look for a friend and you'll find a partner. Good Luck!

Hey - you stole my name! I HAD IT FIRST! ....

...:( .... fine, I can share. Harrumph.

This is a phase a lot of gay guys go through. You're USED to being emotionally attached to females - eventually that will fade into just wanting to be their friends. I was in this phase for a goooood looooong part of my life, and it sucks because it is confusing. But I GUARANTEE you as soon as you're comfortable in your own skin...you'll be okay.

And you'll be gay. Trust me. LOL Good luck! *hugs*

If you were bi you would think about sex w/ women...but since you don't I think you just deeply appreciate qualities of women. We are nurturing, loving, loyal people (most of us anyway). Since you enjoy having sex with men that is obviously what you perfer.