Is it weird that I feel this way about dating guys?

I can actually see where you come from.

Myself personally...i didnt date in high school at all and avoided any such things. Im not gay or anything but i myself have odd views on dating and relationships.

I see little point in dating to just date...i would prefer to not go out with a person at all unless i really like them...then to go to the point of being a bf/gf, i would have to really enjoy the persons company and love them..not just have a crush or have it be lust.

I am sadly in a small group of few that think like this compared to most now in this day and age.

So no you arnt weird or have misplaced priorities...but you should understand that with that mindset you are not in the majority,so most may not understand you:P

I'm in my mid-to-late-twenties and I have similar views on the situation.

Because your personality can change when you're in a relationship as well as over time / with age, at some point, you're going to have to go through the annoyance and turbulence of early relationships to figure out who you are and what you want. It can be messy and frustrating, but dating people can also bring some new experiences and friends into your life. If you're a quiet stay-at-home type, maybe you'll meet someone who teaches you the joys of rockclimbing or snowboarding. If you're energetic and outgoing, maybe you'll meet someone who will introduce you to a great series of novels. For all of relationships' irritations, there are also some perks.

But, at your age? Don't worry so much! Most high school girls (and college girls, for that matter) want the status and security of a boyfriend. If you don't find the drama worthwhile, however, don't do it! Enjoy your male and female friends - and make sure you're clear that your intentions are only friendly, *not* romantic or physical. And when a relationship comes along that seems interesting or worthwhile, don't be afraid to give it a shot. Just remember, not every relationship is forever, but a resulting friendship may be and the life experiences almost always are. Ultimately, do what makes you happy and don't feel pressured to do what everyone else is doing! It will work out!

No, you're not messed up. I get what you're trying to say. You just want close guy friends, but you dont wanna go any further than that. I have a few guy friends like that. We can talk about anything, and we're not going out. Dont worry, you're not messed up. Also the benefit of having close guy friends is that you can ask them about guy stuff, I do it all the time, plus they're not like girls where we b*tch all the time.

Well I 'spose I can see you're point

It's -very- rare to see highschool sweet hearts together and married after school

and even rarer to see them happily married

And as far as 'the physical aspects'

I kinda get what you're saying

Like you want a date with them like you'd hang out with a friend?

Or a friend who you love more than a friend?

well i think you havent still found the one with whom you lose yourself and get to a place where you only dream about you too together (just fantasy) but yes if you don't want to be in a short time relationship then i would suggest you be true to what you are now and when the time comes let love and likings lead your way

Haha. I'm 14, and I'm against youth dating. My friends always ask me why, and I tell them the same thing, "I see no point in a relationship that won't last."

Well, anyways, I have lots of good guy friends, and that's all I ever want from them, GOOD FRIENDS. :)

lol.. i think i agree with you, i do this thing where i go to extremes to get the boy to like me. but when he finally tells me he likes me im not interested in him anymore. and i really couldnt care less about his life, i jus want him to know about mine and worry about me, hug me, and kiss me lol.

its like you just want to know that someone out there cares about you adn would protect you. so i always stay there friends. but whenever you become friends with a guy and close friends they always want to go to the next step and become a couple, but i really don't want to be tired down. cos i would freak and cheat.

im really sorry, so instead i am off boys until i find one that i fall head over heels for. :P:P

I can see where your coming from. i kinda feel a bit like that too but i would be more worried about what would happen after you break up, eg feeling weird/uneasy around them. But your opinion is yours only and you have a right to feel the way you feel.

I think you may have a "fear of Intimacy" kind of a self protection machanism. Look it up and see if it applies to you. If not then maybe you're just different which is ok. Different isn't weird or wrong.

It's cool that you don't folow the crowd.

I see your point. Definitely.

But, dating in highschool is preparing for greater relationships in the future!

So, it is good in a way.