My friend is considering to have underage sex and I am trying to talk him out of it. Please help convince him.?

Let him know that the teenaged mind (especially a 14-year-old one) is very far from being fully grown. Teenagers think they have fully developed minds, but that is far from the case. They have bad judgment, they're too short-sighted to understand the impact of many longterm consequences, and they act on impulse. This isn't a hateful overgeneralization, it's a psychological fact about the teenaged brain. That's why they're not legally old enough to live without a guardian. He's too young to grasp the lifelong consequences that could result from this. I'm not saying sex in general is bad, but teenagers who do it just don't know what they're doing, even if they know how it works and that it could end in pregnancy or diseases. It's not just about preventing those things (even though condoms and pills are never 100% effective to begin with). They're not mature enough to handle a sex life properly, even though they think they are. Their minds are ill-equipped, and it's likely he'll grow up to regret it. At 14, there's such a small chance that the girl will still mean anything to him ten years from now, and he could easily grow up wishing he had given his virginity to someone who ended up being worth it, such as his wife. These are all things he needs to consider. He may think it's just negative talk about teenagers, but it's just psychology. It's how the human mind works.

Good for you for realizing the danger in this. Most teenagers think it's no big deal. "Oh, but EVERYONE does it!" they say. It just demonstrates my point about how naive they are. They'll grow up and realize they were wrong, I guarantee that. I was their age once too, after all.

You probably can't stop it. All you can do is be there for him. A friend of mine went through the same thing. First, the enjoyment, the many conquests. Then the relationships, and the pain that came with breaking up. But then when he was in pain, I said may be this isn't for you. And it struck a chord. He hasn't been permissive. Now he has a girlfriend. And they've been waiting until they get married. The best you can do is tell your friend that once he's done this, he may not be able to control himself. He may become a sex addict. Most people crave sex once first done, and they can't stop. It can lead to pregnancy, AIDS, Sexually Transmitted Diseases, etc. A young underage couple were at emergency in a hospital, and when they left the nurse tried to read the scribbling the doctor wrote, and said aloud, gonorrhea. You see, they were a good looking couple, minors, but people knew what they've done. They were given medicines to control the disease, but not cure it. And to top that off. Their names are now on a government list of diseased persons. Other than that. You really can't control him. Unless he's saying this because he may be interested in you. To see if you care. And may be your the one he has eyes on.

If he wants to have sex that is his choice but he had better be ready to deal with what can happen with sex like pregnancy or std. All i can say is be safe and smart about it. I really hate that word underage sex a person should be able to express themselves at any age within certain guidelines of the law. All though i don't agree with a judicial system alot of the time.

you cant really control him but try and tell him that he will regret it. By the way, if you are in australia, the legal age is 16. im in australia too. 18 is the age you can start drinking alcohol.

there are SO many people who have underage sex, as long as they use protection it should be ok. i mean i don't agree to it personally, but 1 of my best friends (who's 14 like me) has had it 4 times and shes still my best friend, im not gonna let something like that ruin our friendship :) let him make his own decisions, he'll thank you for it...

Its completely his choice, i mean its his life. If he is wrong he will regret it. As a friend you can only advice him and not stop him from his will,i mean unless you are having sex du-uh

Well he's gunna do what he wants, but you need to tell him the dangers of it, and the reasons to wait.

14?

lol

so nooby

he'll probably do what he wants regardless of what you say

but yeah, 14.. lol.

LOL how stupid. And if he gets her pregnant? Don't be a fool. Your choice though. Haha :) so stupid!

If this is your friend, he will listen to you. If you or he really loves each other he will not do this.