Am I Doing the right thing?!?! This is VERY long so please don't read unless ur ready for that.?

To try and make a long story short, me and my fiance have been dating for almost 3 years and over a week ago he had a mental breakthrough that was life changing. He FINALLY realized I was the "one" for him and that he never wanted to loose me ever.

This did come with a lot of emotional stress and he barely slept for 4 days. When he told his mom everything, she freaked out and came straight over to where we live and then we went to the ER. At the ER he got blood tested and I agree he was a bit mental from being sleep deprived and his anxiety. A psych evaluation was also required.

We were waiting for the psych for 2 hours then at midnight fell asleep and she finally got there at 2am. She asked him "can you talk?" he said "no I'm just waking up..." So she turned and left the room telling his mom "well that was easy! I'll have them call the ambulance." We waited another 2 hrs for the ambulance, and he asked me if he could move the ring he got me a few Christmases ago onto my left finger, of course I said yes I mean, we've been dating almost 3 years and live together. He did it in front of his mom and two sisters and I could just feel the rage flooding off of them. When the wheeled him out he was sobbing the whole way.

He's now been in a mental hospital for 8 days, he was transfered into this new mental hospital 2 days ago, because the other one was absolutely terrible!

At the other place there was only 1 hour to visit w/ 2 on weekends and only 6 people total could see him in that hour. He has a very large family 3 sisters and 1 bro and his parents that all wanted to see him.

I wanted to be respectful so I told his mom I'd only visit him when she said I could, because I understood he had a big family. She thought that was great and so for like 3 days that's what we did, I didn't see him unless SHE said I could and he always requested I get to see him.

On the weekend once he called me and told me he wanted to see me 2 times that day. I said he needed to tell his mom, but he didn't know if he could get a hold of her in time so he asked me to tell her if he couldn't. He wasn't able to speak with her so, I told her and she replied "well earlier today he said he didn't want to see anyone and then he said he just wanted to see me, so I don't think he really knows what he wants..." So I didn't get to see him, his mom doesn't trust me at all!

To make matters worse his mom told this place that I was a "bad influence" on him and so the mental hospital told him if he agreed to only talking to me once a day and me not being allowed to visit him they'd let him out sooner! It was a total blackmail! He told me he never should have agreed, but I said, I understood, he's JUST trying to get out of there. My friends tell me that his family was just using me as a scapegoat.

Luckily they had him transfered to a different facility and he called me as soon as he could! At this place he can call anyone whenever he likes and visiting hours are 4:45 - 7pm. He told me his family didn't want me to know where he was. I can't BELIEVE THAT! He told me where he was and I visited him yesterday. When his mom and sis saw I was there they were SO mad!

And I just recieved a text from one of his sisters saying

"You had told my mom that you would give Cody & his family some space and time to heal & that you would visity when we felt it was appropriate. This was very generous of you and we would appreciate if you would follow through on your own idea and show us some respect."

I replied

"Respect is a two way street and I do not honestly feel like you have shown me much respect and Cody asked me to come and see him yesterday. I will come whenever he asks. My committment is to him first."

She hasn't said anything back to me... I don't know if that was the right thing to say.

I want to give some facts since most times the yahoo community feels I haven't given enough, if these are STILL not enough, let me know what I can add please?

I met him through his little sister who was my best friend since we were 10, when I started dating him, she thought I was rebounding from my last boyfriend and so spred some nasty rumors about me in her family. So much so that at my boy's 20th birthday a cousin who'd never met me in her life talked sh** about me. I was 17 when I started dating him and a hardcore church girl, I'd never touched any drugs or done anything bad.

I didn't smoke pot until I met him either. He was 19 when we started dating.

One conversation my mom had with is mom when we first started dating his mom said "my son never did ANY drugs until he met your daughter!!!"

Truth, he first smoked pot when he was 15, but didn't start smoking it often until his freshman year of college.

for 2 weeks before this entire incedent occured he was smoking multiple times a day & drinking every night with his friends. I was working on my school work for most of this time.

I do have my own medicinal Marijuana