IS MY BOYFRIEND DISGUSTING OR IS IT JUST ME?

You have a valid point. If you are disturbed to know other people have sex on that bed, tell your boyfriend. If he is dismissive, he doesn't truly respect you because he doesn't show concern for your feelings. Couldn't his rommate and the girlfriend have sex at her place or elsewhere? The whole thing would sicken me too, but some guys don't care about these things.

Wait, can you explain WHY the roommate uses your bf's room? why doesn't he use his own room? And can you please elaborate on the "takes his mattress" part? If the roomie is hauling his mattress into your BF's room i think then i wouldn't mind at all that he uses the room. I certainly might think it is strange.

If i were in your position, I'd only feel grossed out if they were using the same sheets we were using. that to me is a bit disgusting, but if it's just the room, i'd have less of a problem with it. Still it's weird..

My girlfriend and I borrowed rooms all the time.

Who wants to pay to rent a room for just a few hours use?

And the risk of getting caught is half the fun!

this is very eww to me.

but i think agree with the whole special-ness of the situation.

if hes being so nonchalant about it, then confront him

and tell him you think he needs to respect the fact that you

dont want to use a room/bed/whatever where someone else already made nooky. like come on.

and also, tell him, no make him put on clean sheets before you even enter the apartment.

i guess the only issue would be cleaning up after the roomie is done. I wouldn't want someone elses love juices spilled on the bed that i sleep in, but as long as it got cleaned up and i had fresh sheets, i don't guess i would care.... but then again, i've never had to deal with this issue.

I do find that a bit creepy. You are right, probably now feels like a cheap motel room. He should have mentioned it.

wow, sounds cramped. It stinks that ur unhappy. is there another room in the home where the other guy can go??? how about her place? sounds like ur bf is pretty cool, but i understand (being ur 1st) y u want that to be 'your area'.

If your boy friend truly respects you then he'll respect your feelings

Your right it is disgusting!

Gross? yes. But it isn't your apt.