How to ask my mom for birth control?

First off, if you're going to have sex, at least wait until you're 16 so there won't be any legal problems if you get caught.

http://www.sexualityandu.ca/teachers/data-9.aspx

Second of all, when you start birth control, give it 3 months to get completely in your system. When I started, it messed up my period. I had it for 6 weeks in a row. A friend of mine missed 2 of hers. So, its different per person.

Thirdly, you could just ask her. If you upset about talking to her about sex, you could use the excuse your periods are heavy or messed up, and that's why you want to start birth control, but you mom isn't stupid and will know the real reason. You're mom has been there before, and understands. She might be proud you can go to her about that kinda of stuff, and that you're trying to protect yourself. ;)

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you could start the conversation with: Mom, you are the only one I can talk to about this, because I trust you.

I know, it's sneaky, but if you start with that sentence, it'll be hard for her to freak out, because you've already implied that she's your 'go to' girl, and that you trust her... then tell her you would like to go to the doctor to discuss birth control options.

Tell her you haven't had sex yet, but you don't want to be one of those girls that does something in the heat of the moment, and then regrets it forever...tell her that she has always taught you to be responsible, and that as you are nearly 16, this is something that needs to become your responsibility.

also, if i can make a suggestion, perhaps look at the injection, its SO much simpler...it's 99% effective, but the benefits include not worrying about taking a pill every single day at the same time (and trust me, its so easy to forget, especially on weekends and holidays), and things that can effect the pill, like getting sick and vomiting, don't apply. All you have to do is go back every three months for another jab in the tush, and you're done.

Congrats on this mature step, and don't worry, your mom should handle it fine...

mWAAHAAH, i just thought of a terrible way you can tell her....

" mom, I need to tel you something....um, I'm pregnant"

Wait for her to stop hyperventilating and help her get off the floor...

then say "Naah, just kidding, but if you don't want that for me right away, how bout we go get me some birth control?"

AND THEN RUN!

My daughter ever asks me for birth control she better have a few things ready.

Like she better be able to tell me the failure rates of the birth control as well as rates on women who conceived while on birth control. It's pretty high and I want to make sure she understands BC doesn't prevent alot of pregnancies.

She better be able to give me some failure rates on condoms, since that is the only one that helps prevent the spread of disease. She also better know how to use them and understand her protection is HER responsibility.

After that she better give me an idea of what she would do if she got pregnant. Would she keep it, adopt it, or abort it? If she kept it how would she support it, where would she live, would she finish school, does she realize how hard it would be? Is she willing to give up her whole childhood to care for a child if her one night of fun ends badly?

If she got an std...how would she deal with that? Is she ready to deal with that? Can she imagine how she would feel if a doctor told her she had HIV or some other incurable std?

And if after talking I felt she had a good understanding of all the risks involved in the decision she is making then I would gladly take her and get her the birth control. After talking about the above I at least would know that I did all I could to inform her of the risks involved and the uncertainty of BC. Then it would all be on her if the worst happened.

I think most of the people on here have already answered what i would say :-)

I just want to add that i am extremely impressed about how mature you are acting about this! 16 is the legal age, so your deffinitly timing it right. And as long as you trust your boyfriend and not being pressured, there is no reason you shouldnt experiment.

And especially impressed that you both spoke about it first with each other, and your not going to do anything until your on the pill.

Its fantastic that you want to let your mum know, and your not doing it behind your parents back!

Being safe should always be the first step!

But of course dont forget condoms, because the pill will not protect you against STDs.

Wow, I am very impressed that unlike a lot of girls you want to do the right thing and be protected first! The pill is a great idea but first you need to do your own research on it. As in, the side effects and what makes the pill ineffective.

If you don't feel comfortable talking to your mum about going on the pill ( I know what that's like!) and you are 16 and over, you can go to the doctors and get a prescription without your mum having to know anything about it. Also, if you're uncomfortable about explaining to your mother that you want to go on the pill so that you can be protected during sex, you can just tell her that you want to go on it because you want your period to be regular or say that you get painful periods (as the pill makes irregular and painful periods better).

However, if you just want to be straight forward, just tell her that you want to go on the pill, simple as that. I'm sure she wouldn't want you to get pregnant or have an abortion, so it's unlikely she'll refused.

She won't get freaked out, but she might be a little overwhelmed that you're growing up and moving along with life.

I hope it all works out for you.

unless you dont trust your mom to speak to her and actually tell her you're thinking about sex then dont tell her. some moms plainly dont mind,which makes it all simple.

but some really do,for instance; my mother has no clue I am still using the bc pill.

quick story of mine; i needed it for spots/zits and generally bad skin,therefore i went to the doc's she gave it to me and asked if my mom knew i told her the truth and ''no''. when i got home with the prescription NOT the actual tablets yet i told my mom and she started screaming how i am ruining my life with tablets and i am way too young for this and to give them(the tablets) to her. i simply got mad,as anyone would bcoz i needed them and she failed to understand. anyway my mother is one of those ppl who cares for a second and then she blows you off bcoz she only screamed at you bcoz she had nothing to do.not bcoz she was concerned. so now i am on the bc since the start of the school year and she has no idea.so thats my story.

so, as laws go,you do not have to tell your mom your on birth control. Unless you are under 13,but i am guessing older :P the doctor HAS to keep your confidentiality,so thats not an issue. Also if u dont want to go to the doc's and say straight up about them being for sex,then you can say they're for strong,heavy,painful periods. She has no way of proving against the problem and whn you suggest to her that you heard the bc pill helps then she will understand. Many ppl lie bcoz they're embarrassed to talk to a doc(a person they hardly know) about their relationships and sex life. HOWEVER, when she does give u the pill she will HAVE TO explain the sex i.e taking the pill for two months,at the same time before the pill will actually work to protect against pregnancy,and remember it will NOT protect you against STD's and I's,a condom should but it's,again,not 100% relaiable,but 98% i think.

i wish you all the best,and i am happy your thinking and talking about it rather then going straight to it with no idea what you're doing.

EDIT: ''amost 16,too young?''

many will tell you that you are too young but its ur life so i am just helping if you do go along with sexual intercourse,if you dont then that is also good and keep rocking either way :P

xoxo

I agree with Converse Crazy but i know your nearly 16 but with going on the pill, You use it to regulate your periods as well, so you could use that excuse. Or sa to her that you want to be sfe and protected because me and my boyfriend have been thinking about sex.

She should understand because your behaving in a mature manner. I would wait until your 16 though. So your both legal to and your mum would accept it.

Have a nice day

Cazzy xo

The law will not care how old you "almost are. It's illegal and your boyfriend could be arrested and you would not want that, would you? If you told your mum, she would have every right to freak out. It would be best for you to wait until you are legally old enough.

Good Luck

It's good that you can tell your Mom about these things.

You need to bring up the subject about going to the Doctors to get Birth Control, explain to her that you feel mature enough to have sex and you want your Moms support to take you to the Doctors and prescribe them, How old are you?.

Wait until you are 16.