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Do you think we're on a relationship? 10 POINTS! It's long, please be patient in reading. Thanks.?

I'm just a little confused by the situation so would you help me analyze it. We we're dating even if back then she already have a boy friend. So after she broke up with him then I started to court her, I'm courting her for about 6 mos now. Then interestingly we started flirting with each other, like asking what would it be like if we we're married and stuff. Then we would joke around about sleeping together in their house. And if I we're to go to another country she said she would hitch along and I'll pretend to be his fiance and we'll live in one roof together.

And one day we decided to go out very late at night and she asked if we came home later than expected, would we just rent a room for the both of us cause she said she cant come home late. But being the gentleman that I am I decided to finish the date early and brought her to her house. Then our last date was last night because I have to go to another country. We went to a walk for a cause event, It was an all nighter and she never go to those events but because I asked her to she came. We ate ice cream and chips and tons of street foods. The event ended about 1 am, so we decided to pick a spot on the grass and slept under the stars. I gave her my bag for her to use as a pillow. Then used my excess shirt as her blanket. When she saw my shirt she hugged it tightly and smiled. It was our best date ever.

So the morning after that, with all these cheesy stuff I took all guts and asked her if I could call her my girlfriend now? Then weird enough after asking her that she became all defensive and said stuff like what if I don't like you and we need to get to know each other better first and she needs time to think about it. I don't know what happened and if I said anything wrong what could I say or do to make everything right again.

I really like this girl so any helpful advice is welcome. Thank you.

Update:

to Fernando, I was originally thinking about that and thanks for the help, but being his school mate back in my collage days she was the shy type of a person. And thinking that what woman would actually be willing to sleep with a guy and flirt about hitching and getting married, a lot of times with a person she doesn't even care about?

And about our date. It is indeed legit thinking that she was the one who said that our dates are the best she had, and I just agreed. because she only had a history of one bf before I start courting her.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Well that would probably mean that she saw you as a close friend. She didn't think of you as anything more than that. Was that "date" even an official date? She may not like you right now, so just let the friendship grow. I don't think you did anything wrong. Right now focus on the friendship and see where it goes. Don't bring up that girlfriend thing (which is what went wrong) and when she's ready to mention something about it, she'll mention it. Otherwise continue being close friends. Otherwise what will happen to the friendship now will be a little unpredictable.

    Edit: Well I'm sure there are some couples that when they flirt with each other they just flirt about whatever is on their mind, so she could actually want to be with you

    I really don't know why she said that about being your girlfriend, but....do you know what happened to her first boyfriend? Why they broke up I mean? That may be helpful. How long were they together?

  • aragon
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

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