jealousy ? or hatred ? people with knowledge plz help :)?

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I have this friend at school and i think i might hate her . I dont know how i feel nowadays . At school , we joined the school's girl's basketball team and like i'm always point guard ,but i have to share my spot with her . The coach is always laughing at her jokes and everything and it bothers me . When she has problems the coach talks with her during practice and another coach has to come in and coach us instead(the one coaching us isnt that great a coach). she also thinks she is good at everything . she think she sings good and she exaggerates her life to make it seem like its horrible ,but i've been to her house plenty times and her mom is really nice and stuff . she also started cutting herself too ,but stopped . lets just say she is in the 'in' crowd and thinks shes good at everything . personally i think im a better basketball player.she always says thing like , when i get older i want to become famous . and im like why ? and she is like because i want people to look up to me and i want to be a role model . and i was thinking ,you dont have to be famous to be looked upon and a role model. just join a community club or something. and her shirt is always showing her cleavage line (not that im looking or anything) ,but role models dont do that . and she always tries to be top person . for the soccer season she got put as captain ,but since the coach wanted me to be captain i got excited and accidently told her and never got to be captain . i dont know what she said to my soccer coach . and like see is always thinking she is captain of the basketball team even though SHE ISN'T!!! and she gets all vocal but has no leadership . she just bosses people around . i think i have more leadership and responsiblity then her because im in key club and thats a very responsible role to play and all she does is just go out with her friends every friday and like she is just taking all the limelight even though she doesn't deserve it . i think she needs to lay off
  sorry for writing a lot   
p.s i put it in the singles and dating section because people dont quite respond or look at my question

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i'm sorry.  i couldn't finish your whole question because i got annoyed and bored.

it's good to have an outlet for emotions of frustration, and it's nice to think people are listening... but i think you might be just as well off writing this in a journal or letter.

i understand where you are coming from... but bossy people like this are something you're going to deal with the rest of your life.  it may sound like **** advice to you, but perhaps you need to focus on the fear and insecurity that she makes you feel instead of her actions and words.

she makes you frustrated that she is conceited, that she gets all the attention and hardly works for it, that she is self centered and makes those around her drop all they are doing and pay attention to her.

she makes you afraid that all the work you are doing is going unnoticed in her presence.  she makes you afraid that you really aren't good enough without trying.

but what you have yet to realize is that people like this have the farthest to fall because they put themselves so high above everyone else.  she will fall the hardest because she has no foundation to catch her.

if you keep working hard and smart, you will never fall far or anywhere near as hard because you have that foundation to keep you going.  

i'm sorry.  it sucks to be controlled by someone like this.  it sucks to be around them and deal with them.  but if you focus on yourself, work hard at what you love and be honest with yourself about your feelings of frustration, you will be so much more prepared than her to face life.

good luck!

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