Ramadan:::Tears, Tears, Tears?

She probably just meant, "who cares, we always have next summer or another occasion." It's not that she doesn't love you and that she doesn't want to see you, but she probably would much rather see her mother because her mother is at the top of her list.

For her to say that was kinda like her telling your mother that she cares deeply about her and hates being apart from her and that no one in the world means as much to her as your mother does.

She most likely would have never said it if she knew you would hear, because she does love you but was using you as a means of conveying her love for your mother.

Try not to let it get to you although it would naturally hurt anyone to hear something like that.

No, you're not over reacting.

Although your sister did not mean it, she must apologise to you.

Let your mother know how hurt you are knowing that someone you missed so much have reacted that way towards you, and that you are psychologically stressed & hurt by that.

Your mom should inform your sister about how hurt you are. A normal person or sister would give you a call immediately. If she knew it & do not do anything about it, then it is not worth to have her as your sister. But personally, I can't believe it if she would not apologise to you, especially you are her younger sister.

Anyway there's important thing you can learn from this, especially when you have relationship or friendship outside your family in the near future. Remember this, people change, their heart can change easily. There is no surety in relationship. Today they may like/love you, tomorrow, they may leave you for someone else or simply leave you for some other stupid reasons.

But in your case as a sister, you all are family, & that's forever. Therefore I think she should apologize to you.

Whatever it is, don't feel so bad. Look around, everybody here loves you!

That hurts… and you have all the right in the world to feel that way (especially since she did not know that you were hearing all that). But think of her awdhaa, maybe she was going through a tough time, or your mother had interrupted what she had been saying. I know it hurts to hear your own sister acting that way towards you. You should talk to your mom and see what she says about why your sister acted this way.

but if all else fails….. you can spend the summer over at my house :)

Tears In Heaven take care dave

No your not over reacting, it just shows how much you care about her but you know maybe she might not have meant it to hurt your feelings i mean i say things sometimes but i never really think how it myt sound or how the person might interpet it. Reminds me of a time that sort of happened to me. Was depressing i cried too and felt like i wasn't even supposed to exist in their lives. so you know ask her about it and get her to explain herself.

In the Name of Allah

Dear Nadia,

I read your question and was affected.

I read MOONLIGHT's answer and got impressed.

Now you are to get impressed by my answer!

Let's be realistic and believe that she did mean that literally and that she did mean to be heard by you!

Why should we escape the truth of life? If we do, we will get depressed when we have to open our eyes to the truth!

Now that you have faced the truth, the next step is to deal with it:

One efficient way to do this is to increase your tolerance.

How?

The Koran:

"In the Name of Allah, the Merciful, the Most Merciful

English Yusuf Ali: [94:1]Have We not expanded thee thy breast?

English Qaribullah: [94:2]and relieved you of your burden

English Shakir: [94:3]Which pressed heavily upon your back,

English Shakir: [94:4]And exalted for you your esteem?

English Pickthall: [94:5]But lo! with hardship goeth ease,

English Pickthall: [94:6]Lo! with hardship goeth ease;

English Qaribullah: [94:7]So, when you have finished (your prayer), labor (in supplication),

English Yusuf Ali: [94:8]And to thy Lord turn (all) thy attention."

The answer: You can increase your tolerance by:

1. asking Allah to expand you;

2. trying to expand yourself yourself;

3. taking your attention away from everyday life problems which concern you and directing your full attention to the source of all peace and mercy;

4. thinkng about the big troubles that have come to the Muslims;

5. and thinking about how to solve them.

This way you will look down on your personal concerns and feel international!

Then other people will contact you online to ask you for help and sympathy!

Dear Nadia,

You are a Palestinian:

Have you ever been affected by the opression of Israel on the people of Gaza?

Have you ever felt sympathy for the Palestinians overseas and tried to help them?

Do you know how many people have been killed, injured and forced out of their hometowns in Palestine so far?

I think by changing your tiny personal concerns into vast interational ones you will soon see differently and feel happy, and others will beg your company!

Sohrab Sepehri, my favorite poet says'

"Let's wash the eyes;

Let's watch another way!"

Yours,

A nearby STAR!

What your sister did is more than heartbreaking. It is heinously cruel. For someone who is supposed to love you suggest that you should be left behind and isolated from those you love, that is traumatization, that is emotional rape, that is psychological violence. Your sister will rot in hell if she does not repent of her cruelty and abuse toward you (and likely others). You should not go to France to stay with that sister, she will find ways to torture and abuse you all summer.

this is sad :(.. no you are not overreacting.. i would have done the same thing

you said you haven't seen her for 10 years so that means she doesn't really know you and she doesn't know how much you miss her..

maybe you should try to talk to her and tell her how you feel.. she is your sister so she has to understand..

Oh My God reading that nearly made ME cry and i dont even know you...of course you are not over-reacting its natural for you to be upset and cry I know I would :'(

May Allah Bless You sis....

awwwwww :(

do you know why she feels this way?

well, she is 10 yrs older, so maybe she thinks you're a little kid.

sorry sis, this is sad. you are justified in your sadness and anger. I only have one sister and I don't know what I would do if she did that to me.

:((((