Any reasonable advice out there?

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I knew this girl liked me for about a month or more, I was not too sure about her.  I like her as a friend and would definitely date her if she lost about 15 pounds.  I am in college and she is one year older than I.  She is very popular, I am not so much.

I was over there a week and a half ago for a party and I was wasted (like the third most drunk I have ever been in my life) and I ended up in her bed.  I am not sure exactly what happened but I believe we had sex (and it probably sucked because I am sure I must have passed out and she was wasted on her birthday).

Anyway I felt really weird about it, and I didn't talk to her much over the week.  So the next Friday, I ended up in bed with her exept I remember most of it and we did have sex.  That night I was a ridiculous flirt and I used a lot of mixed messages that made her go crazy (she said I confused her, which is basically the most amazing thing a girl could say to me who I was flirting with) before we went up to her bedroom.

So I felt a little better after this night and I felt like I should at least talk to her a little more.  But then on Monday her facebook status said "possibly I am falling for you."  Now I just feel very weird.  And she has started texting me.

So here is my problem.  I dont want our relationship to go too far (especially since we are two weeks from the end of school) but I do not want to hurt her feelings. And I still like hanging out at her place

So my solution is to lead her on but very slowly for two more weeks until it is time to leave.  
And yes you can call me selfish and give me other titles ... but I am asking for a reasonable way to handle this.

Mr. K · Accepted Answer

there is no "reasonable" way to "lead" anyone on (& you know that).  you've made it very clear that the only thing you want to do is "use" her.  you're best bet is to actually just let it go completely (to avoid hurting her).  but, you can take the chance of just being honest with her ... to the point that you just don't want a relationship (because of how close to the end the school year is) & that you just want to "hang out."  this way, the choice will be hers.  just don't be surprised if she doesn't go for it.  nor should you be surprised if she tells you, one day, that you did hurt her.

? · Answer

let me get this right - you would date her if she lost 15 pounds but you have no problem taking her to bed.  You ought to have your chestnuts roasted giving this poor girl the wrong idea.  There is no good answer you will like because the right answer makes you out to be a donkey.  If you have any self respect you will tell this girl the truth and take your medicine.

Anonymous · Answer

You got yourself in a sticky situation. I think you should stick to your solution. It's the only way. Yes, you're gonna break her heart because she's obviously falling for you but it's the only way. But don't lead her on too much because that's just gonna make it more complicated and harder for you. Hope I helped?

? · Answer

maybe lead her on.. but seriously, be super careful because you don't want to take things too far. act like you've already got her and you're just trying to keep her around for a bit, that way she'll know it's kinda iffy

Lemon · Answer

Just tell her that you don't want to get into anything serious when you're leaving in a few weeks.  If you're not lying you can't hurt her feelings.

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ABCD · Answer

um, why do people find it so difficult to just have mature, honest conversations with the people they f*ck?

Anonymous · Answer

just tell her you don't want a relationship and that you just wanna have fun

Anonymous · Answer

DO A BARREL ROLL!

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