Why do married men feel the need for porn?

Your situation is not normal. When porn takes the place of sex there is a problem. The problem is not you, don't ever think that. The problem is him and he needs to be treated for it.

Sort of like how people build up a tolerance for drugs or alcohol - people try something, use it regularly, and eventually start to need more, more often, and in higher doses.

With an orgasm, the things that "load" the dose are things like novelty, riskiness, variety, shame, all that. So, if he's taking pleasure apart from his wife, it simply means that he's progressed past husband-wife sex on the scale of his "addiction" or "tolerance".

The only thing to do is to back off all stimulation for a while, go through the withdrawal, and let his body readjust. If not, it'll keep progressing.

Watching porn is normal for guys of any age, single or married. I mean, it's not like he's out there cheating on you. Guys just like to look at something different. Maybe there's something kinky he likes that he doesn't want to tell you about because he's afraid you'll freak out. My husband watches porn and I don't mind at all cause I know that he's not going to go looking for the girls in the porn to have sex with them. If it's to the point where his watching porn is interfering with things in everday life there is a chance he's addicted to it. If that's the case, he should definitely seek some kind of counseling.

It is a rather lengthy explanation. Short, if I can is that he is suffering from issues that can go back to childhood and he has been using sex to mask the feelings from those pains. When one form doesn't give a person enough excitement to help him forget, he moves on to something better, which can be an affair or porn. For those who find porn it's great for them because they can make it last as long as they want it to go for, hours of being able to forget that pain. But hours of forgetting the person they are married to also. But that is the main reason, trying to overcome a painful past.

I feel exactly the same way that you do about this. Word for word. My dingbat husband (who is 27) had been doing this since the beginning of VCR's...well since he had a vcr. Anyway, I hate him for it, and I wish he wouldn't do it. I get so psycho-like upset over it and lately i just keep it to myself. He doesn't hide it very well, and I know he wants me to find it just to spite me. It hurts to have sex with him, therefore the reason for him to have porn.. what good does it do me? none. he sucks. but, whatever. my fault for marrying a guy who has a way to get under my skin. (we got married too young and have been together since age 15.)

he is a man.they like sex.they like to think about sex.they like to think about it all the time.ive been married 15 years,i use to get all upset and get my little heart broke,but then....he is still here.he is here every night.i really don't care,its not important to me.hey,everyone can dream right?lol.let him keep dreaming,you do the same,because you guys have been there for each other that long...so..let him be a man.its normal,if you don't believe me ask a guy.sex,sex,sex,not love..please..don't waste your time on that,life's to short ,no one is perfect.

Porn is an addiction. He needs help as well as you, for putting up with it. Get some counseling with or without him Do not put up with this no more then you would if he had a girlfriend. You deserve better then this.Good luck to you.

Married men don't feel the 'need for porn'. Mine doesn't!

Maybe he wants to. It could be worse. HE could be having an affair. Maybe SHE needs to heat things up a bit instead of feeling sorry for herself.

a married mad wants porn because he gets bored with his wife

duhh