Why do people think marriage is so disposable these days?

lol, Idk but it must be fun, I'd never marry without a prenub...

We live in a world where everything is disposable. We want quick, magic cures to all our ills; hence an inappropriate marriage in the first instance and a divorce in the second.

That said, an alternative answer would be that we are much less concerrned with maintaining appearances and more concerned with being happy. Years ago, divorce had a serious social stigma, and many people stayed together only for that reason. But society has changed and now we stay together because we want to - if we want to - and not because we feel we have to. You be the judge which is the better situation.

Because working it out requires time and effort. With people already running on empty due to work stresses, finances, etc, they simply don't have the time or energy to spend fixing a failing marriage. The world is faster paced and more demanding than it was a couple generations back.

Also, with women being in the workplace more nowadays, they aren't chained to the marriage like they were in the past. Before women entered the workplace in full force, if their husband decided to leave them they were left in a horrible position. They were literally stuck in the marriage.

Now they have the option to leave and support themselves, so they don't have to put up with a bad husband. I think men are still getting used to that, though not quite fast enough.

Because people realize they have a choice! Divorce was frowned upon back in the day because your breaking the vowels you took when you got married. But these days happiness is better than some vowels you swore against when you were young and thought you were SO happy!

But then again...LIFE is becoming disposable as well.

People will life on average in 4 to 5 homes in their life time. People will own up to 6 on average cars in their life time and have up to 10 sexual partners. It's no more about owning one thing and sticking to it for the rest of your life.

We have been given choice and with choice comes disposable life styles :/

I think your question is a bit haughty

Not all think marriage is disposable

I married a great man, he went to war, came home

disabled hooked on pain pills narcotics and became

abusive

13 years of marriage gone in flash.....

2 yrs later he has been off all narcotics for 14 months

we are now civil but I cannot and will not take him back

our divorce was final and I wish him well, miss the nice

guy but it was not an easy decision

and who are YOU to judge?

especially now with financial woes, loss of jobs

and stress taking a toll on marriages

so I hope you enjoy the view from your righteous pedestal

People think they'll be happier with a change.

Love isn't so much a feeling as a commitment. Welfare of children must come first, but before or after them, marriage has to be the first priority. Compromise.

It's fashionable these days for women to be angry at men, and they have reasons. However, giving up the anger is necessary for a good marriage.

As my gramps puts it, women today have a better stance careerwise to be able to divorce because in the older times they depended on their husband for financial security. So they couldn't exactly get up and leave. In modern society where the wife is capable of holding a high standing job she doesn't need to take crap from the husband like before. This only explains some of divorces but it does explain some

Because it takes TWO to work out a marriage and when the other person has already given up, or is someone you have already given 1,000 chances to change and they REFUSE or just won't or CAN'T...........well, then.......time to start assessing exit strategies.

Life is too short to stay in a marriage that is making you effing MISERABLE.

If BOTH parities are not living up to all those colorful vows they took.......then one has broken their promise and the contract, becomes null and void.

Why should one party suffer because the other is lying cheat or a weasel, or a spoiled , self centered, egotisical brat.????

Marriage is grown up business, and takes TWO grown ups.

The trouble is........we often marry as KIDS or young adults.......

and one person, refuses to grow up.

Or one grows, but not in a GOOD way-

let me put it this way.............

I got ivy weeds that is choking my olive tree to death.

I like the ivy, it's pretty....looks nice.........but I gotta kill it, to save the Olive tree.

The olive tree, actually helps the ivy grow taller and thicker and more robust..............

I wish I could keep BOTH.......but the ivy will eventually strangle the olive tree to death.

if it's not a MUTUALLY satisfying union...........one of ya, has got to go!

and if I chop down the Olive tree...I kill the ivy as well, but if I chop down the ivy.......I save the olive producing Olive tree, which is actually a good thing....as we then make olive oil and eat the olives.

It does me no good to kill the olive tree, to keep the ivy that serves no real purpose in the end,

Now if you'll excuse me..........my clinging vine is calling.

i asked my husband the same question when he decided he didnt want to be married anymore.

i seriously came home and he told me he didnt want to be married anymore. i didnt even see it coming.

its so easy to get a divorce these days, i mean if your spouse disagree about where to live, get a divorce, you dont like the way your husband drives, get a divorce, your wife asks you to take out the trash one to many times, get a divorce. its ridiculous.

my parents are divorced but they at least tried for 4 years they went to therapy and counseling, most people who get divorced these days dont even put forth the effort to try.

its sad, i can understand that some people cant work out their problems but half of them dont even attempt to find a happy medium where they can live peacefully.

also i think people just jump into marriage to soon and they dont really know the person.

i agree. i think it has alot to do with the value system of family in general u know? also, the community togetherness isnt there anymore either so now we're more stressed and pretty fed up and not willing to "give in" to anything really. but mostly, the basic value system is pretty much a thing of the past. its very sad

I thoroughly agree! yet i think you are able to no longer decide till you have walked around in someones footwear - each guy or woman with a recognition, set of values and motives and that they react in a various thank you to each project. exceptionally with how vulnerable our society has grow to be - western countries have extensive quotes of melancholy; that arising countries basically don't have, do u think of that's proper? because of the fact we are vulnerable we take small issues too problematical and walk out of the relationship. I even have faith it would desire to be because of the fact we are so spoiled.