Girl with Asperger's has a crush on me- Advice?

I think you might be misinterpreting the situation. I don't think she has a crush on you. I think she just likes you and wants to hang out with you. People with Asperger's syndrome usually don't have many friends and many people shut them off or are mean to them when they try to make friends, so when they meet someone who is nice to them and might be a new friend, they can come across as if they had a crush on the person, just because they're excited to finally have someone to hang out with. They then try to spend as much time as possible with that person, because they don't really have many others to hang out with.

I wouldn't say anything to her about this, as she's probably just after your friendship. If she makes a move that makes it completely clear that she's hoping for a romantic relationship, you should tell her why that's not possible, but if she doesn't, just grant her the benefit of the doubt and assume she just wants to be friends.

If you say something to her and then it turns out she doesn't have a crush on you, she'll be embarrassed over having come across like that and she'll feel like she can't hang out with you anymore, which will feel like losing a friend, which is hard on someone who might not have many friends at all.

Hi there.

I work with high school age kids in the special education department. A lot of the girls I work with have crushes on the main stream high school boys. Its completely normal. And although she is your cousin and I'm sure you feel somewhat uncomfortable, just remember that her brain works a little differently than yours because of her Asperger's. You should nicely make it clear to her that since you are cousins there will never be any type of romance between you two. But other than that, just appreciate the fact that she thinks your cute. It's a compliment! It may get annoying to have her constantly following you around, but just try to be as nice and patient with her as you can be. Eventually she will probably get over it :)

Most people with Aspergers take everything very literally and aren't good at guessing meanings behind the words actually said, so you will need to be very clear and specific with her. Just say, I like you but only as my cousin. Also tell her if she is crowding your personal space. She has probably been told this before, so don't feel bad. My brother has Aspergers (20 years old) and we have to remind him all the time about boundary's and other peoples feelings.

It is very mature of you to try to find a nice way to tell her. We have a kid with aspergers in our class, I can see why it might be a problem (he has written a 75 page book about the girl he likes). I wouldnt be too concerened, however, if i were you, she will probably find somebody new to crush on. The boy in our class gets super obsessive but it changes every couple months

Hang out w/ her for a couple minutes, then explain that you are needed elsewhere. I have Asperger's-a very mild case. If you hurt her yes she will withdraw, when this is so-innocent. I know it is irritating-but Asperger's is not mental retardation, it is a form of autism that affect g/t kids. And it is passing-maybe the next time she sees you she will have improved and be more mature. And as a mother, this sounds totally innocent Asperger's patients are totally passive, like they're on sedatives and not violent at all.

I have AS as well, and i can sort of understand where your coming from.

The problem is, she doesn't know how to properly socialize. I am now 23 and although i don't follow people around like that, i have difficulties being intimate and socializing in general. Since she is your cousin and hasn't made any real direct moves on you, i would just tell her (kindly) that she is getting a little too....obsessive.

I like James' answer. She might not be aware of what she's doing is wrong. Of course, I don't like how some people think that having Asperger's (one answerer tried to say asparagus... ha ha) is the same as being totally retarded. Just because someone has Asperger's doesn't mean that they're unstable. Keep that in mind. She might or might not understand. Consult your aunt/uncle and see what they think. It might be simple misinterpretation on your part.

she doesn't have a crush on you. It is a problem I used to have as a teenager too. When I would try to make friends with someone it came off like that. Because to us, being that we don't have many friends or social contact, it makes our bodies as excited as a normal person would get if they see their crush.

She is your cousin, I'm sure she doesn't have the hots for you. I think she is excited by being involved in a social interaction with you above anything else

Having been diagnosed with this myself, I can say that she probably doesn't have a crush on you. Her behaviour seems obsessive and gives the wrong signals because she doesn't know how to behave. She probably has very little concept of social norms, leading her to do what seems like very embarrassing things.

I would just ask her politely to not act in ways that you feel inappropriate, and perhaps have a word with your aunt about the matter as well.

I would talk to 1) your parents about it and 2) her parents about it. No matter what, yes you will have to let her know that this isn't acceptable. And i'm really not sure an "instability" caused by u could be permanent. Yeah i'd just talk with the rents.