Why does my long-distance boyfriend keep asking me "What if" questions?

maybe his gonna kill himself cuz those are some creepy *** questions to be asking!!

Ask him by what he means when he's asking you those questions, what is the meaning behind all of this? you said that you will see him next year, take it from me (experienced in a LDR) he may be getting tired, frusrated or may see that he's missing out on alot and wants to know where you stand with the relationship, and maybe depending on your answers, he wants to see if you're serious about this long distance relationship. Listen to your guts and feelings and listen to him too..since one day out of nowhere the "what if" happens unexpectedly..

It keeps it interesting! It's fun to think what if.. but because of the questions he's asking is he in the war??

think of some what if's on your own... keep them happy.. like what if I started a business and when you get home you didn't ever have to work again...

it's better than a 2 minute phone call saying how are you... are you horny or are you ok..? then click... it's a conversation piece.. set his mind at ease and tell him your really waiting for him and your not sleeping around and you cant wait to be with him.. if that's how you feel...

With all long distance romances ther is a certain amount of insecurity because of the lack of closeness it is only normal for one or both to be thinking these sort of questions especially the more practical one in the relationship.

He's obviously an insecure lover. According to psychologists, when a relationship is firmly established on the premise of mutual trust,it meets the following criteria based on the Attachment Theory:

Secure Attachment

- Both romantic partners need to have had a secure attachment with parents in childhood. Securely attached children exhibit minimal distress when separated from caregivers. They are able to depend on their adult caregivers. When the adult leaves, they feel assured that the parent or caregiver will return. When frightened, securely attached children will seek comfort from caregivers with confidence.

- Consistent, sensitive and loving parenting leads to secure attachment and positive beliefs. Romantic partner is viewed as dependable and supportive, and the self is viewed as worthy of love and support.

Otherwise you'd be ambivalent or avoidant...

- Ambivalently attached children usually become very distressed when a parent leaves. It's a result of poor maternal availability. These children cannot depend on their mother (or caregiver) to be there when the child is in need.

- Children with an avoidant attachment tend to avoid parents or caregivers. When offered a choice, these children will show no preference between a caregiver and a complete stranger.Children who are punished for relying on a caregiver will learn to avoid seeking help in the future.

- Adverse care giving experiences (e.g., abuse and neglect) lead to insecure attachment and negative beliefs. Romantic partner is viewed as unavailable, threatening and rejecting, and the self is viewed as unworthy of love and support.

long-distance relationships are not very common among people since poeple dont trust eachother . maybe hes just worried that you or him might not like eachother anymore or something might happpen . tell him the way you feel about him asking waht if questions and tell him how much you love him and will never cheat on him or anything .

he'll feeel better and stop . good luckk :)

He feels the pressure of a long distance relationship. He doesn't know whats gonna happen it makes him nervous...he doesn't want to bring it up directly because u might think he wants out so he says "what if I died. Would u find someone else?"

aw man. well maybe the reason that hes asking all of those questions is because he wants the reassurance that you will be there for him. he wants to know that you love him and arent ready to move on yet. another reason might be that he is questioning the relationship and wants to know if youre feeling the same way. you should definitely ask him why he's asking all of those questions, this will help you to know how he's feeling.

Those questions are completely normal. I find it strange that he keeps asking though. Maybe your original answers did not give him the reassurance he was seeking.

It is one of these things:

1. Hes gonna die of cancer or something

2. Hes in some kind of trouble

3. He thinks your cheating

4. He is thinking about cheating

5. (and most likely) he has serious doubts because you are so far away.

My suggestion is that you make plans to see eachother sooner. It will make things better

It sound to me that he's a little scared and insecure about your relationship. Because you guys have a long distance relationship, he's worried that you will find someone else.

You should reassure him.

Don't get mad at him for wanting to be with you.