What should I get for my cousin's engagement (and shower, and wedding)?

Give only what you can. The bridal couple should understand and be happy that you are attending the wedding events.

You should never base a gift on someone's wealth, you should base it on what you can afford. If you were in their shoes, would you want someone judging you in that way? Probably not.

I've never been to an engagement party, so I'm not sure of the standard gift. But, a nice card would do. I don't think you're under any obligation to give a gift at the engagement party. If you want to do something small, I suggest an inexpensive bottle of champagne or wine.

For the shower, I would stick to an inexpensive gift on the registry. If nothing is in your price range, then a nice gift card in an amount you can afford, would be the most appropriate.

As for the wedding, the idea of giving cash is really based on your region. Where I live, we also follow the cash rule, but I've seen other areas that do not. I would give cash at the wedding, again, in an amount your are comfortable with. It's better to give even a little something, then nothing at all.

you are not expected at all to bring a gift to an engagement party, that's not what they are for. If you dont feel comfortable going empty handed, you can bring a bottle of wine

for the wedding shower, you just get whatever you want off the registry...whatever you feel comfortable getting

for the actual wedding, you usually just give money...again whatever you can afford comfortably!

usually you give them money but for a rich couple maybe something that is priceless for instance i gave my cousin a designed wedding invitation which cost about 1000 to design so she was so pleased cause i saved her lots on printing etc....

its the thought that counts see what they need a memorable gift will over shadow a money gift

Spend what you can afford. You absolutely should not feel you MUST spend a ton of money. Also engagement gifts are completely optional and rarely expected. So save your money by not buying one for that.

oftentimes for the engagement occasion you in basic terms provide a in simple terms right needs card. For the bridal bathe a cutting-edge, reckoning on the subject matter, and for the marriage you in addition to could deliver a cutting-edge or a card with a cutting-edge cert. in it or $$, as much as you.

Well try checking out her registry and pick out things you can afford (that's if she is on a registry). Try also going to sites that you can get name brand stuff for less then retail prices such as overstock,ebay,and sites like that.

well any kind of alchohol always works or something like a knife set or a few wine glasses something liek that

oh well give her a gifecard for target