Wants to get married but not ready to move in?

Moving in can be a scary thing. If he is telling his friends that he is moving in then he's probably not lying to you. Does he have a lease that he needs to get out of or roommates that he needs to give a little time to find a replacement? He may just not know when he'll have time to pack his things. Talk to him about it. Tell him that you would like a time line so you can start clearing out closet space for him or because you need to let your landlord know...make up some logical reason other than impatience. :) Good luck

Technically, if you have parental consent in most states you can marry before you turn 18. However, if he isn't ready to get married then DON'T! If you're only 17 you've got sooooo much changing and growing to do. Wait until you're 18 and live on your own/with a roommate. Seriously, you need to learn about yourself before you go cohabitating with a partner. Enjoy your youth and freedom for a little while, you've got your whole life for everything else.

Ok your race does not play a part in this..you ae just being a concerned woman about the well being of your family as a whole and that is normal...do not stress hi bc there is a third person involved your dtr..let time do what it is meant to do and allow the space that you all have prepare you for a permanent life change..this is the same thing with me my sons love my fiance' but i have made the decision to wait until we are married and I am doing things to prepare me for the change..it is not a bad thing, you have his commitment that is most important focus on you and your dtr and how you will adjust..bc it takes work for such a dramatic shift on both parts

Obviously he would not have gotten engaged if wasn't interested in living with you at some point. However, you really need to be talking to him, and figuring out his feelings. Does he want to wait until you get married to move in together? Is he uncertain of your future? Don't press him for a time-line, because if he is not sure now, the pressure is only going to cause more strain on the relationship. Make sure he realizes your point of view and that he is considering how you feel about his hesitance. This is not something that can be resolved overnight, so find a way to discuss it with him without coming across as pressuring him. If you are meant to be together, you will both be able to come up a solution that everyone is comfortable with (don't confuse this with everyone getting what they want, because marriage is about compromise). Maybe it will move your relationship forward, and maybe you'll both realize it's not right for you to be together. But with patience and two open minds, you can come up with the answer that is best for everyone.

Why the rush to have him moved in with you? I don't know how long you two have been dating, but he should be getting used to your daughter and vice versa.

Don't share anything before the wedding. You have no leverage if he decided at the last minute that having a wife AND child is too restrictive.

well to be honest with you sometimes guys just want to be able to have that financial strength and they want to feel like a man and be the major source of income in the house hold, and especially if you have a kid in the house. i know you might love him that much that it doesn't matter how much he makes, but when you love some one ( from a man perspective ) you want to have a good job and be able to take care of them. Thats just one thing i feel could be it, and if it is i would suggest asking him how does he feel about his position financially as of now, and if you hear anything along the line of ohh i want to make more money to take care of you then that would be it. Now the other side to this could be, he is simply not mentally ready to live together and be a parent. Or he is not ready to take on that pressure of being a parent and being financially stable and able to take care of the house hold.

I'm a guy..

It's not easy for us guys to move in our lovely girlfriends and fiances..

Its a huge step.. we get worried, so that's why.. maybe he still wants more freedom because lets face it when a guy moves in with a lady, he isn't free to do a lot of stuff that he is used to do. Just give him some time and he'll move in with you..

Just talk to him, be upfront with him.

Ask him, "Do you really want to move in together? Because last time that we talked about moving in, you said you needed to be more comfortable with my daughter and now that you know her better, I don't see why we have to put off moving in together.

I would like you to be honest with me. Am I wasting my time here waiting for you? I can't wait for a guy for the rest of my life, waiting is okay for a little bit, but I don't want to wait forever. I want to live my life and I want someone who is mature enough to move in with me, because I feel like I'm ready to do that with you but if you're not ready then perhaps we're not the right people for each other."

Just tell him something like that. You shouldn't have to wait forever for someone. That may be romantic in movies but not in real life.

He's not ready to give up his independence. He comes and goes as he pleases...he leaves the toilet seat up with no recourse, he drinks milk out of the carton without a shoe hitting him in the back of his head. Give him time, let him ease himself into moving in.

Maybe he wants to do things the traditional way and not move in until yall are married.